[blparent] Changing a Troubling Habit

[Dena Wainwright]

Nicky.
There are two sites where you can get noise-making shoes.
www.pipsqueakers.com
and
www.itsybitsy.com

many people have an indoor and an outdoor set, some only use them 
outdoors...it's a preference thing.

Dena

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Nikki Fugett-Dobens" <nfugett at cinci.rr.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Thursday, November 19, 2009 3:45 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Changing a Troubling Habit


> Jo Elizabeth,
> I have a daughter that is 16 months, so I'm   probably going to encounter 
> this too.  Like you said, people don't even think, but really those 
> comments are disrespectful.  I would try to explain to other caregivers 
> how these comments will make you look to the child, possibly not being as 
> competent, or leading her to think she can take advantage of your lack of 
> vision.  I would explain to others taking care of Sarah the rules that you 
> like to follow,  as part of her routine.
> You could also connect a sound source to her, like bells or some other 
> divice that would give you cues on where she is.  I wonder if Independent 
> Living Aids or some place like that would have ideas or items that could 
> be placed under her clothes, or tied on to her shoes.  I'm a first time 
> mom too, so these are just thoughts.  I'm hoping this helps.
>    Nikki
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Thursday, November 19, 2009 3:56 PM
> Subject: [blparent] Changing a Troubling Habit
>
>
>> I've been coming up against a situation that is troubling me a little, 
>> and I'm looking for some feedback.  I guess I need to know whether I'm 
>> overreacting, and there's nothing to be worried about, or if there is 
>> something to be concerned about and what I ought to do.
>>
>> Sarah is almost 21 months old now, and I stay at home with her.  She 
>> holds my hand when we leave the house, and I've also got one of those 
>> animal backpack harnesses for her.  But around the house, she's taken to 
>> running away from me when it's time for me to change her diaper or put 
>> her to bed and she isn't interested in doing those things.  I know that's 
>> normal toddler behavior, so I don't take it personally.  But I also know 
>> there's no way I can chase her and catch up with her, so I don't want to 
>> set that up as a pattern.  I just stay in one place and call her, keeping 
>> the mood light, and she usually comes to me soon enough.  No big deal.
>>
>> The problem is, her dad and some sighted friends have chased her and 
>> scooped her up, and a couple of times I've heard them say stuff like, 
>> "Well, I can see, so I don't have to wait for you to come to me," or 
>> "It's hard to get away from someone who can see you, isn't it?"
>>
>> My worry is, will this start establishing the idea in Sarah's mind that 
>> Mom can't see, so she can't keep up, or she can't do what needs doing?  I 
>> don't think anybody has meant to be harmful or thoughtless, but wouldn't 
>> it be better to have everybody following the no chasing rule?  If so, is 
>> there a practical, realistic way to break the chasing habit in other 
>> caregivers, or at least stop the comments?
>>
>> Thanks for thinking about this with me.
>>
>>
>> Jo Elizabeth
>>
>> Until lions have their historians, tales of the hunt shall always glorify 
>> the hunters.--African Proverb
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