[blparent] Help before 7:30 Arizona Time Please

Sat Nov 21 23:18:59 UTC 2009

It would be good to have someone close teach little girls the good thing
about girl hood and the bad things. V

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Elizabeth Cooks
Sent: Friday, November 20, 2009 8:37 AM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] Help before 7:30 Arizona Time Please

I ment using a female family member as a roll model rather than a complete 
stranger.  Lol.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Friday, November 20, 2009 6:23 AM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Help before 7:30 Arizona Time Please

> Suing them as role models? Better to sue strangers, there's no fight
> like a family fight after all.
> Sorry guys, Elizabeth's message is written in such a way to totally say
> the opposite of what I think she meant.
> So, Gabe, we all want to know, what did you decide?
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
> On Behalf Of Elizabeth Cooks
> Sent: Thursday, November 19, 2009 4:57 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help before 7:30 Arizona Time Please
>
> That is easier said than done.  I never wnated ot use a raisor before it
> was
> necessary, and this other stuff, I have no idea where it is coming from.
> as
> far as the feamle thing, if there are anyfemale relatives in the family,
> I
> would suggest suing them as role models instead of a stranger.
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Thursday, November 19, 2009 9:04 AM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help before 7:30 Arizona Time Please
>
>
>> My vote is that she needs a mom or mom-like figure. Or, she needs a
> big
>> sister, an older girl/woman in her life.
>> Sounds like you've got a kid that really wants to grow up and you want
>> to find out why, as well as provide her with some women and girls she
>> can bond with.
>> I'd also want to know if she is engaging in cutting, or if she is just
>> wanting to try shaving. The two are very different, if it's cutting,
>> she's in need of psychological help, if it's shaving, most of us girls
>> have tried it before we really need to. For the boys, there's a great
>> episode of Leave It To Beaver that goes into this.
>> Me, I wouldn't be so quick to punish. Sounds to me like she's got a
> lot
>> going on that she isn't comfortable sharing with Daddy. Nothing wrong
>> with that, so long as she isn't hurting herself, and so long as she
> has
>> an appropriate adult or adults to share with.
>> I also wouldn't punish for lying, sounds like you two are engaging in
>> one way transmissions v. discussions, and that method clearly isn't
>> working in this setup.
>> Also, if she likes farms, I'd see if she can volunteer at one outside
> of
>> this trip. Time outdoors with animals is wonderful in a variety of
> ways.
>> She'll also meet people who can help guide her through her teen years.
>> Me, I'd let her go, and work on getting some women in her life. Sounds
>> to me like she needs that more then punishment.
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>> On Behalf Of Gabe Vega
>> Sent: Thursday, November 19, 2009 5:40 AM
>> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
>> Subject: [blparent] Help before 7:30 Arizona Time Please
>> Sensitivity: Confidential
>>
>> Background:
>>
>>
>>
>> My daughter has had a great interest is woman supplies even before
>> needing
>> them, she is 8.75 years old will be 9 in February. And she has been
>> firmly
>> told it isn't time, for razors, shaving, lotions, etc.
>>
>>
>>
>> Even before needing to ware bras I would catch her sneaking them from
>> school
>> from other little girls to ware them and be cool I guess. She now
> wares
>> a
>> double a so that isn't an issue anymore so it's this razor thing.
>>
>>
>>
>> A couple of days ago I found a razor cap on the bathroom floor. Being
> I
>> don't shave I instantly walked up to her asking her where the razor
> was
>> that
>> I suspected she had and she very much denied even knowing of one's
>> existences. I left it at that and we went on, although I always
> thought
>> she
>> was just lying and I find it sooner or later, I always do and she
> always
>> gets caught.
>>
>>
>>
>> So, tonight looking in the medicine cabinet looking for something for
> my
>> ear, I found the razor, it's a disposable razor just like the one
>> matching
>> the cap I found on the floor a couple of days ago.
>>
>>
>>
>> My problem:
>>
>> I always let my daughter know why she is being punished, and then I
>> asking
>> her to fully explain to me so I know she understands why she is being
>> punished.
>>
>>
>>
>> Today she is scheduled to go to a field trip to a farm and she is
> really
>> looking forward to it. Should I keep her home for a form of
> punishment?
>> The
>> entire school day is being spent at the farm so if I keep her home she
>> would
>> be only missing out on the farm. Or do you recommend any other forms
> of
>> punishment.
>>
>>
>>
>> Please do understand we have talked, over and over and over about
>> wanting to
>> grow up too fast, it has nothing to do with her not knowing. Its her
> not
>> listening, and lying about it when confronted with the evidence.
>>
>>
>>
>> Thanks
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>> Gabe Vega A+, Net+, ATACP
>>
>> The Tech of all Techs
>>
>> (623) 565-9357
>>
>>
>>
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