[blparent] need to think something out

Sat Apr 10 03:14:26 UTC 2010

Trust me, it does happen.  It has happened to me as well.PPD is real, and 
can be very dangerous if not treated.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Tammy, Paul and Colyn" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Friday, April 09, 2010 2:09 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] need to think something out


> Hi,
>
> Or maybe just because you were very lucky!  With remus I didn't have any 
> of those thoughts but with Colyn I did, and it was horrible to say the 
> least. Imagine if you thought you were a bad parent for not being able to 
> stop your baby from crying how much worse you'd feel if you had thoughts 
> of getting rid of or harming your baby.  but it does happen, and it's okay 
> to ask for help when it does.  Nobody's going to think you're a bad 
> parent, and noone's going to take your child away from you, just because 
> of ppd.  It's very common and there is certainly help available.
>
> hth
>
> Tammy
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Thursday, April 08, 2010 5:15 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] need to think something out
>
>
>> Maybe because I waited 16 years to have my darling daughter or maybe 
>> because
>> I was almost 40 when I had her, but not once did I ever think of harming 
>> her
>> or getting rid of her and anything but holding an dloving her.  All that 
>> you
>> all say, boggles my brain. V
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf Of Tina Ivey
>> Sent: Wednesday, April 07, 2010 3:03 PM
>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] need to think something out
>>
>> Taking of a baby is not easy.  It is normal to think about getting rid of 
>> a
>> baby at times.  Please remember that htis is temporary.  Tina
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Scott Lawlor" <sklawlor at mac.com>
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Tuesday, April 06, 2010 1:01 PM
>> Subject: [blparent] need to think something out
>>
>>
>>> Hi.
>>>
>>> I hope you guys will indulge me as I think aloud a bit and maybe I could
>>> use a bit of input, not necessarily what to do so much as maybe just 
>>> using
>>
>>> the group as a sounding board of sorts if that's alright.
>>>
>>> Earlier this morning I was watching the baby and putting a diaper on 
>>> her.
>>> She was very wiggly and crying and I wasn't in a very good mood anyway 
>>> so
>>> I was annoyed and actually growled at her which was very over the top.
>>>
>>> Cindy asked me if I regretted having a kid and I said that I did a 
>>> little.
>>
>>> Add to this the notion that she really wants another one and I don't 
>>> think
>>
>>> I can go through the baby stage again, no matter how temporary things 
>>> are.
>>> She asked me if I wanted to leave and I told her that part of me does 
>>> and
>>> part of me doesn't, an answer that I hate giving because it's quite
>>> ambivalent.
>>>
>>> For the most part, I'm happy here and though I don't enjoy it that much
>>> honestly, I take care of the baby alright.
>>>
>>> I just don't know.  It's not a question of whether either one of us is
>>> worried about being single and alone, that's not a big deal for either 
>>> her
>>
>>> or I actually.
>>>
>>> But she says if I'm going to resent a child, she'll pick up on that and 
>>> it
>>
>>> won't be healthy for her or the rest of the family.
>>>
>>> I'm not sure if resent is the right word.
>>>
>>> We compliment each other in so many ways though, she cooks and I clean 
>>> up
>>> and do the dishes, she's way better with the finances and I'm better 
>>> with
>>> the laundry.
>>>
>>> Like I said, for the most part, I enjoy my life here with Cindy but 
>>> taking
>>
>>> care of a baby, I'm not so sure of all that sometimes.
>>>
>>> It's not the work so much, the extra laundry, the diapering and all 
>>> that.
>>> I'm not sure what it is exactly.
>>>
>>> I know I enjoy my alone time more now than I used to I think.
>>>
>>> I hate feeling conflicted like this and it's not like I have to decide
>>> right now whether to leave or not.  She did say though that if I wanted 
>>> to
>>
>>> leave, it would be better now than later.
>>>
>>> I felt more comfortable and more capable when I was exclusively in a
>>> support role, doing the laundry and all that other stuff.
>>>
>>> I remember she was crying really hard one time when I was holding her 
>>> and
>>> I had this image of me throwing her through the window, not a pretty 
>>> image
>>
>>> and I'd never do something like that but those sorts of things really
>>> concern me.
>>>
>>> No, being a parent of a new baby hasn't been exciting for me and I 
>>> haven't
>>
>>> enjoyed it nearly as much as Cindy has and I wasn't excited about having
>>> this kid and I think it's safe to say that she wanted this child more 
>>> than
>>
>>> I.   I do better with kids who can actually talk and who can at least 
>>> tell
>>
>>> you what they need to some extent.
>>>
>>> I hope I haven't rambled too much but I just felt that I needed to write
>>> some things out a bit.
>>>
>>>
>>>
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