[blparent] Parenting Question about potty training; not exactly blindness related! Sorry!

[Dena Wainwright]

Hi Melissa.
I haven't potty trained yet, but have lots of friends who have struggled 
with this exact thing. Honestly, the thing that seems to have worked for 
many of them is good ole fashion bribery or some form of external 
motivation:).

One of my friends had a daughter who wouldn't poop on the potty. She 
mentioned one day how excited she was about going to preschool. My friend 
told her that kids who can't pee and poop on the potty aren't allowed to go 
to school (which, here in MN, is true). She began pooping on the potty the 
next day, and proudly announced "now I go to school!"

Another friend had a son who absolutely refused to poop on the potty. One 
day he mentioned how much he wanted some sort of big ticket oy (I think it 
might have been a Big Wheel). My friend told him that Big Wheels were for 
big boys, and that big boys don't use diapers to poop in. The next day he 
started pooping in the potty, and demanding his Big Wheel as a rewward :).

I think the key is to find something that motivates Austin, whether that's 
an outing, an activity, a game, a star chart...whatever.

I also know parents who have a reward bag. They get a bunch of little toys 
at the Dollar Store and whenever the child goes a full day or whatever 
length of time you choose without having an accident, they get to pick a 
reward from the bag.

Dena

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Kim Cruz" <autifroggie at comcast.net>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Thursday, February 25, 2010 3:32 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Parenting Question about potty training;not exactly 
blindness related! Sorry!


> Hi List,
>
> Potty training can be a hard time.  I started potty training my son maybe 
> 6 months before he started preschool.  they sort of took over the training 
> part.  They suggested that i send him to school in underwar and he will 
> learn not to go in his pants.  We  it only took him a week to learn to go 
> in the potty.  I'm sorry this is the only advice I can give you.
>
> Kim
>
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Melissa Ann Riccobono" <melissa at riccobono.us>
> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Thursday, February 25, 2010 1:12 PM
> Subject: [blparent] Parenting Question about potty training;not exactly 
> blindness related! Sorry!
>
>
>> Hello everyone,
>>
>> Well, it's that time.  A time for me to post something not exactly 
>> blindness
>> related, but definitely parenting related!  I hope you will all forgive 
>> me,
>> and that some of you parents who have been through this particular stage 
>> in
>> your children's lives will chime in and give me any advice you have. 
>> Feel
>> free to take this off list if you'd rather; I can be reached at
>> melissa at riccobono.us
>>
>>                OK, so here's the situation.  Austin has been working on
>> potty training for the past couple of weeks.  For the most part he pees 
>> on
>> the potty and often tells us when he has to go.  We've had many dry days.
>> But, for some reason, he is very reluctant to poop on the potty.  Once he
>> did without messing in his pants.  A couple of times he has messed his 
>> pants
>> first, then "finished up" on the potty.  But, the last couple of times he
>> has not given any warning and has just messed his pants entirely.  Also, 
>> he
>> has held it for as long as 4 days; I was going to give him a laxative, 
>> (at
>> the advice of his pediatrician) but then he went on his own.  But the 
>> whole
>> thing just starts over again.  We certainly have times during the day 
>> when I
>> have him sit for longer periods on the potty.  We read books and talk, 
>> and I
>> try to make this a very relaxed time in the hopes he will go.  This has 
>> not
>> worked.  I've also tried rewards, which haven't worked so far.  He also
>> usually holds a toy, his blanket, or something else he likes while he 
>> sits
>> on the potty, which I've heard can help, but hasn't helped yet.  He seems
>> most comfortable going in his pull up or underwear when he's standing up 
>> and
>> just playing quietly.  This isn't something I can quite recreate on the
>> potty.
>>
>>                I would appreciate any advice!  I know potty training can
>> take a long time, and I'm doing my best to be patient, but I hate to see 
>> him
>> holding it for so long.  I also don't want to put him back entirely in
>> diapers because, as I've said, he's doing so well with staying dry, even 
>> at
>> night and at naptimes.
>>
>> Thanks in advance for your help!
>>
>> Melissa
>>
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