[blparent] Choosing Your Battles with Your Children

[Rhonda Scott]

Steve is going to find Deven an engine he can take apart and hopefully want 
to learn to put back together again. Right now Deven is given the option of 
joining us in the shop, and sometimes we turn off the TV and tell him he 
needs to play outdoors for a little while. He opts to not hang out, but 
we're thinking maybe if dad offered one on one time, and tries to teach him 
something about tearing something apart in a positive manner and 
re-assembling it, he may take a bit of interest. It is the attention span 
that is against us here usually. We are not huge believers in medication, 
but in Deven's case, we have seen proof firsthand that if he doesn't have a 
med to help with impulse control issues and hyperactivity, he tends to get 
into a lot of trouble.

My office tasks I think I need to keep for just me. He wants to use my 
computer in the worst way for playing online games, and though I know I 
could create his own log-on account so he can't access my files and desktop, 
I hesitate to do that because he is already so glued to TV and the WII. 
Thoughts about this would be appreciated too. I don't want to take away what 
is good for him, I just feel that with TV watching and video games, allowing 
him computer access to play games is only encouraging him to stay away from 
thinking his own thoughts, the real world, etc. We already have a challenge 
with helping him see the difference between what he sees in movies and what 
is real.

Rhonda

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, January 20, 2010 2:42 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Choosing Your Battles with Your Children


Ok, just one question.  Can Devin work in the garage with dad?  This might
be a wonderful place for some real quality time with dad and how about you
teaching him about the office aspect?  Do you think he might want to learn
just a little bit. V