[blparent] Looking for Literature or other suggestions foreducating my new DR. On parenting as a Blind person
Elizabeth Cooks
elizabethcooks at comcast.net
Wed Mar 31 01:40:02 UTC 2010
As well they should apologize for such behavior. It is unacceptable.
----- Original Message -----
From: "Leanne Merren" <leemer02 at gmail.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Tuesday, March 30, 2010 2:20 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Looking for Literature or other suggestions
foreducating my new DR. On parenting as a Blind person
> Hi Miranda,
> I think you have a great attitude about it.
> I was part of a document that was put together a while back by a woman on
> another blindparenting list. Not sure if she's on this list or not. But
> it went through lots of things like how to keep track of children in
> public, how to give medications, etc. I'm not sure if I still have it
> around, but I'm pretty sure the MCB was given a copy, so you could contact
> them and see if they still have it.
> I've had run ins with a few doctors, and I just stood my ground and
> answered any questions they had, as any parent would answer questions from
> their doctor. I try not to get defensive, unless I think they're way out
> of line, like when I wasn't allowed to keep my baby in my room by myself
> when my first one was born, or when a new doctor kept me waiting in the
> exam room for a half hour while she talked to her superior about who would
> care for the baby, even though it was my third child. No parent would
> just sit in the room and let it go, and neither would I. I got lots of
> apologies from the staff at the hospital where my first baby was born, and
> I'm sure they were hoping I wouldn't sue them, as they made a lot of
> mistakes with his birth. The new pediatrician that we started seeing when
> my third child was born knows now that she can ask questions if she needs
> to, but mostly she praises everything I do, maybe a little too much, but
> at least I know she believes my children are in good hands. So you're
> right, it's about educating them the best way you can, and if you act
> confident, that will help your case a lot. After all, why wouldn't you be
> confident? :-)
> Let me know if you're able to get your hands on that booklet. I'll look
> around here and see if I can find it.
> Leanne
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Miranda Borka" <knownoflove at gmail.com>
> To: <blparent at NFBnet.org>
> Sent: Tuesday, March 30, 2010 1:36 PM
> Subject: [blparent] Looking for Literature or other suggestions for
> educating my new DR. On parenting as a Blind person
>
>
>> Hi,
>> I recently found out that my insurance covers a private doctor in my
>> city, and I had my first appointment with him yesterday. Part of this
>> appointment involved my physical for our fostercare-adoption process.
>> After seeing the form, the doctor said, "I'm not wanting to sound rude,
>> but how do you plan to parent a child? Will the children be Blind since
>> you are?" I told him that the children would not be Blind, and that it is
>> difficult to find a child in the U.S fostercare system who is Blind
>> without that child having other multiple special needs. He then asked,
>> "Is your husband sighted?" I again answered "No." He asked, "I'm sure you
>> can hear a pin drop, but how would that make you able to parent?" I
>> reassured him that I knew of many successful parents who just happened to
>> be Blind, and that it was not impossible. I further explained that
>> although as a parent who happens to be Blind I may need to make some
>> adaptions, it was not impossible.
>> Although very shocked and amazed, he seemed satisfied with my response,
>> and clearly admitted to never knowing a Blind person who could or wanted
>> to be a parent. In the end, he put on my foster-adopt physical form, "She
>> is Blind, but very capable and ambitious." Although I do wish he wouldn't
>> have made my Blindness a point on the form (as it had already been
>> noted", I figured it best to leave well enough alone.
>>
>> I have had friends suggest I leave this doctor and go to a more
>> respectful doctor. However, I disagree. First, I am aware that it is a
>> fact that most of the sighted general public are uneducated about
>> Blindness and aspects of living as a person who is Blind like parenting.
>> I can't run away from these situations, as it would not only deepen the
>> stereotype that Blind people are not independent, but it would not set a
>> good example of how to handle adverse situations to anyone watching
>> (including our children when they enter our home).
>> Furthermore, as my doctor said, he was uneducated about Blindness and
>> the ability for a person who is Blind to parent. I don't believe that
>> walking away from this doctor would aid in educating him, and I honestly
>> felt sorry for him and his lack of education. I'll admit to feeling
>> initially defensive at his insessent questioning of my capability to
>> parent, but I suddenly wanted to educate him.
>>
>> Whether my doctor realizes it or not, he has challenged me to go in to my
>> next appointment (or contact his office) very equipped with information,
>> materials and/or knowledge to educate and empower him to understand and
>> work with myself and any other Blind person he comes in contact with who
>> is or wishes to be a parent.
>>
>> I write all of this to ask for your feedback. Can anyone of you share how
>> you've dealt with situations like this? Can you share any literature,
>> materials or anything I can provide my doctor so he can see for himself
>> that what I am saying is indeed true? I want him to be able to be
>> informed, and not to just take my word for it.
>> Any feedback and ideas would be greatly appreciated.
>> Thanks in advance, and have a great week!
>>
>> In Christ, Miranda
>>
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