[blparent] toddler in crowds

Mon May 10 02:37:23 UTC 2010

I am paying attention.  There is no such thing as hyperactivity disorder in 
toddlers, it is very rare in preschool age children, and just because a 
toddler wanders doesn't mean he might possibly have ADHD.  Even putting that 
out as a possibility at his age is absurd.

Jo Elizabeth

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From: "Joy Wolf" <joy at kevinlwolf.net>
Sent: Sunday, May 09, 2010 7:50 PM
To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] toddler in crowds

> I must respectfully agree that even with that if, it is very easy to worry
> parents unnecessarily with those kinds of possibilities.  Of course, it's
> possible, but so are a lot of things.  I guess maybe I have heard too many
> people, both acquaintances and professionals, go on about what could 
> happen,
> how a child might develop, and what if this doesn't get better.  In fact, 
> my
> parents were told that developmentally I wouldn't pass the age of about 
> five
> years.  Lol, I'd like to think I did, though.  I guess what I'm saying is
> that I can see why some would be sensitive to even the thought that there
> may be a problem, when what is being faced right now is normal toddler
> behavior.  In fact, at four years old, my son will get distracted by
> something and wander, and there are no signs whatsoever of ADHD, unless 
> the
> only criteria is occasionally wandering away.  No offense intended here, 
> but
> I can see why this might not have been taken in the best way.  In other
> words, why get ahead of ourselves?  Have a good week everyone.
>
> Joy and family
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Elizabeth Cooks
> Sent: Sunday, May 09, 2010 8:24 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] toddler in crowds
>
> I said if he doesn't outgrow that.  Pay attention.  The operative word
> hereis "if".
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Sunday, May 09, 2010 7:00 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] toddler in crowds
>
>
>> Hey, back up the bus.  Shannon's son is very young, and wandering is
>> something that all toddlers do.  There is absolutely no reason in the
>> world to start thinking that he might have ADHD because he wanders at the
>> age of two, or somewhere around that age.  I have a pretty good deal of
>> knowledge about ADHD because of my stepson, and it positively does not
>> exist in toddlers, and very rarely in preschoolers.  I'm not meaning to 
>> be
>
>> rude or anything, but it's way too early to start ringing alarm bells
>> about a problem that isn't there.
>>
>> Having said that, keeping track of a toddler in a crowd is difficult.
>> It's a strain for me even in a small church on Sundays.  The child leash
>> does help, and having people you trust keep their eyes open helps also.
>> There are child locators that sound an alarm when you push a button.  The
>> child wears a beeper that goes off.  Teaching a child to answer when
>> called is good as he gets older.  But to be perfectly honest, I've found
>> that without sighted help, it's very difficult to keep tabs on Sarah in a
>> crowd.  Because of that, I plan where I go if I am on my own to avoid
>> noisy, busy situations, or I go when someone who can see is available.  I
>> seek out opportunities to go places with sighted people when I can 
>> because
>
>> I don't want to take away experiences that would be valuable for Sarah to
>> have, like playing on busy playgrounds.  It will probably put some super
>> turbo independent blind people off, but for the sake of my child's 
>> safety,
>
>> I've personally decided that there are some places I'd rather not go
>> unless I have a sighted companion.  That may change as Sarah gets older
>> and more verbal, but for now, I make sure we get out often and have a lot
>> of friends, and that I do things with her at home every single day 
>> instead
>
>> of just being in the same room.
>> F
>> or what it's worth,
>> Jo Elizabeth
>>
>> --------------------------------------------------
>> From: "Elizabeth Cooks" <elizabethcooks at comcast.net>
>> Sent: Sunday, May 09, 2010 6:47 PM
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] toddler in crowds
>>
>>> Keep a child leash on him.  If he doesn't outgrow that, ADHD might be a
>>> possibility.
>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>> From: "Shannan Zinck" <shannanzinck at gmail.com>
>>> To: <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Sunday, May 09, 2010 2:15 PM
>>> Subject: [blparent] toddler in crowds
>>>
>>>
>>>> Sooo went to Moncton this weekend for a missions trip. a 1 nighter.
>>>> Anyway
>>>> how do you guys cope with being in large crowds with a toddler who 
>>>> loves
>
>>>> to
>>>> wander. He's a good kid but, can't keep still to save his life. We were
>>>> at
>>>> an overnight shelter, (the one we used to work at) and I found it 
>>>> really
>>>> nerve racking. I used the harness when I could but, I'm one of the
>>>> singers
>>>> so had to be up front and get some friends to watch him. Most of my
>>>> friends
>>>> are sighted so it's easier for them to chase him around the center. 
>>>> well
>
>>>> I
>>>> am claustrophobic as well so crowds freak me out anyway and with a
>>>> toddler
>>>> running around it's 10 times worse. I was sort of fine until I had to
>>>> rely
>>>> totally on my friends that's hard. His birth mom was there too and had
>>>> him
>>>> much of the time so I was a little wary and was constantly straining to
>>>> know
>>>> where he was and half the time I didn't know exactly. I trust my 
>>>> friends
>>>> but, I'm not always going to have the option of having them around 
>>>> every
>>>> time I take a trip. We did well on this trip but, quite leary about
>>>> taking
>>>> another one.
>>>> -- 
>>>> Shannan Zinck
>>>> Survival is letting GOD take over!!!
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