[blparent] toddler in crowds

[Shannan Zinck]

Well I wasn't expecting to start a big argument just wanted some sound
advice. no matter. As for the ADHD thing well that never bothered me in the
first place but, I can see where being sensitive is important. Some parents
would be very bothered by that statement.

While I agree that his birth mom would watch him it needs to be realized
which most of you wouldn't know she needs to be supervised when around him
and his birth father really needs to be watched. There are serious
circumstances surrounding their situation that prevent them from spending
time with him without being closely watched. They are one of the reasons we
needed to move out of the province. We don't go to Moncton much so it's not
a huge deal but, I do get nervous every time we need to go there.

A sitter at the event with me is probably the best solution and thankfully
my friends were watching him much more closely then they let on. They were
even more nervous for him than I was. I have had to quit the worship team to
be attentive to Myles but, I am a singer song writer and need to sing at
special events on occasion which makes things uncomfortable. Myles hardly
plays with toys even at home thought I have no idea why. just not
interested. He loves to drum and has since he was 5 months old and even now
can keep a beat. Just for the record he is no where near what I would call
hyper he is just curious and loves people. He will talk to just about anyone
which is one of the main reasons I get nervous in crowds for him. Him and I
are completely opposite in this that he loves the busy crowds and crowds
freak me out. If I would have left him home it would have had to be
overnight and I'm just not ready for that yet because my sitter that I use
to get for long periods lives in Moncton not where I am and I'm not sure I
am comfortable with who is here yet. He is very adaptable I think I'm the
problem not him. My harness is the horse back pack. I got it because it was
cute. People's comments don't bother me either I just tell them that I'm
visually impaired and need him close to me and this is the best way I know
how. Some family members are against this because there was mistreatment
years ago by an uncle and his son involving a dog collar and a leash and
they associate a harness the same way.

I know I can't stop singing so a sitter seems the most prudent way to go.
thanks guys and sorry for stirring up a hornets nest didn't mean to.

-- 
Shannan Zinck
Survival is letting GOD take over!!!