[blparent] dealing with the public

[Veronica Smith]

Yup, that's what I'd do.  Just be polite, that's how we teach others. V

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Tammy, Paul and Colyn
Sent: Monday, May 24, 2010 6:32 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] dealing with the public

Hi,

You just be direct and honest with them.  You don't have to be rude about 
it, just tell them that you know what you're doing, no you don't need help 
and please back away from the baby because you're upsetting him.  You might 
not want to say please don't touch his passifier because I don't know where 
your hands have been, but that's what I'd be thinking!  Often people just 
need some educating where blindness is concerned, and especially where blind

parenting is concerned.  They just don't see how anybody could parent 
without site, so therefore, it's not possible.  I'm sorry but I notice it 
most especially with people who go to church, and especially if they're 
older people.  So you just do what you do, and don't feel hurt about it if 
you can help it.  Educate them when and if you can, but other than that, 
you're responsibility is to your son.  Telling them don't touch him is well 
within your rights.

Tammy
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Leslie Hamric" <lhamric930 at comcast.net>
To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, May 24, 2010 5:41 PM
Subject: [blparent] dealing with the public


> Hi group.  I wanted to tell you about a situation that happened yesterday.
> My husband and I were at a church doing and he had left me alone with the
> baby for a few minutes to go talk with some other people.  Michael started
> getting all fussy and crying and I immediately bent down to his carseat 
> and
> started rocking it like I normaly do.  Well, besides having this one lady
> ask me things like do you want me to hold him, I can try, I love babies, 
> do
> you need help rocking him, are you sure ou don't want me to hold him, etc.
> etc. I had three or 4 other ladies crowd around him, getting in his face,
> look for his pacifier which was right with my hand's reach,  and start
> talking to him which made him cry more.  Funny they all left me alone when
> my husband came back.  I know these women from choir and although they 
> were
> wel intentioned, I felt very uncomfortable.  They indirectly made me feel
> like I wasn't doing my job. I kept saying, no thanks, I have it and it 
> still
> didn't do any good. I'm wondering how have you all dealt with similar
> situations in the past?  My second question is, is there a such thing as
> being nice but firm when trying to get well-intentioned folks to back off?
> How else could I have handled it besides freezing up and feeling hurt?
> Thanks for any input.
>
> Leslie
>
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