[blparent] What's your Opinion of spanking

[Robert Shelton]

OK, a good serious question.  I was spanked as a child, and I also used
spanking with my first two boys.  I'm fine -- they're fine.  On the other
hand, I realized that spanking rarely, if ever, did anything other than make
me feel like I'd made a mistake.  As we raised numbers 3 and 4, two more
boys, we gradually found that other measures were equally effective and
didn't leave us feeling like we'd done the wrong thing.  I'd love to tell
you that there's a secret formula for knowing the right way to correct a
child in every situation, but that's simply not true, or if it is, I don't
know the formula.  I would suggest a couple of things to keep in mind.  
1.  Think.  Use your thinking brain to figure out how to address the
situation.  This might mean that you'll need to stop what you're doing and
give a few seconds of thought to figure out the appropriate response.
Think, don't just react.
2.  When it's a social situation, and your kid is being a pest to you, or
someone in your home, consider restraint.  Not restraining yourself,
although that is something to consider, but restraining your kid.  Just a
gentle grasp of a wrist to keep them under control.  Establishing control is
extremely important.  Note, kids really dislike being controlled.  That's
natural -- live with it.
3.  Try to slow down.  You think better when you can give yourself a time
out in order to figure out what to do.  Get things in a safe configuration,
and then consider your options.  Sometimes taking those few minutes, as
opposed to a knee-jerk reaction, can also encourage your child to consider
the consequences of his/her actions. 

OK, I've posted about a month's worth for me.  Everyone have a great week.

Over and out.

-----Original Message-----
From: jill [mailto:jillbilly4 at comcast.net] 
Sent: Sunday, November 14, 2010 3:32 PM
To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] What's your Opinion of spanking

I am not offended at all.  I use spanking and  time out with my 5 year old
and with my 13 year old taking away privileges.  I was spanked as a child,
and lived to be a respectable adult.  I don't think that one of form of
punishment works for all children or all situations.  I think that people
can over exaggerate the affects either way "to spank or not to spank"

Jill
-----Original Message-----

From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Peggy Shald
Sent: Sunday, November 14, 2010 3:07 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] What's your Oppinion of spanking

I have spanked my kids occasionally.  When they're about to touch something 
hot I slap their hands and say no.  When they run off and won't come back 
when I call.  I guess, yeah it's always been for safety reasons.  I was 
spanked as a cchild and am not sccared of my mom, don't hate her, have a lot

of respect for her as a matter of fact.  Do I think that a child should be 
spanked for everything, no!  Do I think there are times when they should 
yes!!  Now that I've probably offended everyone on the list, I'm done 
writing for now.



-----Original Message----- 
From: Elizabeth Cooks
Sent: Sunday, November 14, 2010 1:52 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] What's your Oppinion of spanking

Only in safety situations.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Gabe Vega" <theblindtech at gmail.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Sunday, November 14, 2010 8:17 AM
Subject: Re: [blparent] What's your Oppinion of spanking


>I have 1 questions, whats up with all the dot dot dots when they
> aren't even proper in the type of sentences you are writing. the ...
> is for when a sentence is continued not on the same line or when there
> isn't enough room to fit all chars or words in the orginal location of
> the beginning of the writing. hmmmmm, it must be this new internet
> writing.
>
> On 11/14/10, Rhonda Kubehl <rhondakubehl at gmail.com> wrote:
>> This was a debate going on on facebook, and i am wonderng what everyone
>> else things.
>> We don't believe in soanking in our house, I don't believe it solvs
>> anything, it in my oppinion teaches a child if i don't like what a
>> person is doing... i hit them.
>> although, my sster spanked my nece, t didnt make her any different, it
>> worked for her.
>>
>> spanking don't work for me,  guess  beleve in reason...
>> Or I ask Is it necessary?... Corban says No...
>> I'm just intrested in hearing others belieths in spanking.
>>
>> --
>> *Nothing contributes so much to tranquilize the mind as a steady 
>> purpose--
>> a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye*
>>
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