[blparent] What's your Opinion of spanking

Tue Nov 16 18:30:15 UTC 2010

That is a good thought, what would we do in a situation like that.  I have
friends that have no quams of taking their  misbehaving children into the
restroom and giving them a good talking to, if not a good smack bottom.....
 When gab was little, my husband would put her into time out on his lap.
She didn't like this, nor did she get to roam freely.  After a designated
amount of time and much frustration on both parts, she wa  allowed to go on
her way.  I always wondered who was punished more? V  

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Deborah Kent Stein
Sent: Sunday, November 14, 2010 9:50 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] What's your Opinion of spanking

I think as blind parents we sometimes feel particularly vulnerable when our
kids act out in a public situation, since we're always aware that we're
being observed and that our parenting abilities are being questioned.  I am
wondering what methods others have found helpful when a child gets out of
hand at a picnic, school event, wedding reception, etc.  For instance, if
the blind parent got a ride with someone else, then packing up and leaving
may not be an option.

Debbie

Debbie

----- Original Message -----
From: "Robert Shelton" <rshelton1 at gmail.com>
To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Sunday, November 14, 2010 10:09 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] What's your Opinion of spanking

> OK, a good serious question.  I was spanked as a child, and I also used
> spanking with my first two boys.  I'm fine -- they're fine.  On the other
> hand, I realized that spanking rarely, if ever, did anything other than
> make
> me feel like I'd made a mistake.  As we raised numbers 3 and 4, two more
> boys, we gradually found that other measures were equally effective and
> didn't leave us feeling like we'd done the wrong thing.  I'd love to tell
> you that there's a secret formula for knowing the right way to correct a
> child in every situation, but that's simply not true, or if it is, I don't
> know the formula.  I would suggest a couple of things to keep in mind.
> 1.  Think.  Use your thinking brain to figure out how to address the
> situation.  This might mean that you'll need to stop what you're doing and
> give a few seconds of thought to figure out the appropriate response.
> Think, don't just react.
> 2.  When it's a social situation, and your kid is being a pest to you, or
> someone in your home, consider restraint.  Not restraining yourself,
> although that is something to consider, but restraining your kid.  Just a
> gentle grasp of a wrist to keep them under control.  Establishing control
> is
> extremely important.  Note, kids really dislike being controlled.  That's
> natural -- live with it.
> 3.  Try to slow down.  You think better when you can give yourself a time
> out in order to figure out what to do.  Get things in a safe
> configuration,
> and then consider your options.  Sometimes taking those few minutes, as
> opposed to a knee-jerk reaction, can also encourage your child to consider
> the consequences of his/her actions.
>
> OK, I've posted about a month's worth for me.  Everyone have a great week.
>
> Over and out.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: jill [mailto:jillbilly4 at comcast.net]
> Sent: Sunday, November 14, 2010 3:32 PM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] What's your Opinion of spanking
>
> I am not offended at all.  I use spanking and  time out with my 5 year old
> and with my 13 year old taking away privileges.  I was spanked as a child,
> and lived to be a respectable adult.  I don't think that one of form of
> punishment works for all children or all situations.  I think that people
> can over exaggerate the affects either way "to spank or not to spank"
>
> Jill
> -----Original Message-----
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> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Peggy Shald
> Sent: Sunday, November 14, 2010 3:07 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] What's your Oppinion of spanking
>
> I have spanked my kids occasionally.  When they're about to touch
> something
> hot I slap their hands and say no.  When they run off and won't come back
> when I call.  I guess, yeah it's always been for safety reasons.  I was
> spanked as a cchild and am not sccared of my mom, don't hate her, have a
> lot
>
> of respect for her as a matter of fact.  Do I think that a child should be
> spanked for everything, no!  Do I think there are times when they should
> yes!!  Now that I've probably offended everyone on the list, I'm done
> writing for now.
>
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Elizabeth Cooks
> Sent: Sunday, November 14, 2010 1:52 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] What's your Oppinion of spanking
>
> Only in safety situations.
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Gabe Vega" <theblindtech at gmail.com>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Sunday, November 14, 2010 8:17 AM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] What's your Oppinion of spanking
>
>
>>I have 1 questions, whats up with all the dot dot dots when they
>> aren't even proper in the type of sentences you are writing. the ...
>> is for when a sentence is continued not on the same line or when there
>> isn't enough room to fit all chars or words in the orginal location of
>> the beginning of the writing. hmmmmm, it must be this new internet
>> writing.
>>
>> On 11/14/10, Rhonda Kubehl <rhondakubehl at gmail.com> wrote:
>>> This was a debate going on on facebook, and i am wonderng what everyone
>>> else things.
>>> We don't believe in soanking in our house, I don't believe it solvs
>>> anything, it in my oppinion teaches a child if i don't like what a
>>> person is doing... i hit them.
>>> although, my sster spanked my nece, t didnt make her any different, it
>>> worked for her.
>>>
>>> spanking don't work for me,  guess  beleve in reason...
>>> Or I ask Is it necessary?... Corban says No...
>>> I'm just intrested in hearing others belieths in spanking.
>>>
>>> --
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