[blparent] discipline

[Peggy Shald]

Oh my goodness, the way some parents talk to their children makes me 
cringe!!  I've heard them curse and criticize ... It's awful.  If I have to 
disaplin my children, I try not to do it in front of others, we've walked 
out of stores before, or into a bathroom, or just even into another room of 
a house.  But to hear some of the things that parents say to their kids ... 
some parents ... it's horrible!!  If my mom talked to me like that now, as 
an adult, I'd be heartbroken, how can they talk like that to their little 
kids??



-----Original Message----- 
From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
Sent: Tuesday, November 16, 2010 2:00 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] discipline

Personally, I have a big issue with someone spanking a child or even
scolding one too much in public.  I don't want to do anything to my child
that I wouldn't want done to me, and I know for sure I wouldn't want to be
embarrassed in public.  As best I can, I try to get to at least a
semi-private place.  Also, I hear the way a lot of people talk to their
kids, and I think, no wonder the kids don't respect them.  I think that most
times, a person can talk to a child in a calm, reasonable, and affirming
tone, and the message will get across.  Once in a while, a more commanding
tone is necessary, to get through, but if you use it too often, your child
will just tune it out.  Even when I am speaking firmly, like when I was
taking away a light bulb from Sarah last night because her dad had left the
burned-out bulb where she could get it, I said, "You need to give that to
me, please, right now.  It's not safe for you to have."  When I took it away
from her, I said, "Thank you.  Now, shall we find something else to look
at?"  She wasn't happy about giving up the lightbulb, which she called a
bottle, but not feeling happy about something is different from feeling
disrespected.  I don't know how much Sarah picks up on at two years old, but
I figure it's best to get in the habit now of treating her the way I expect
her to treat others.

Jo Elizabeth

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From: "Shannan Zinck" <shannanzinck at gmail.com>
Sent: Tuesday, November 16, 2010 11:59 AM
To: <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: [blparent] discipline

> Hmmm, that is a good point about quickly. Sometimes I agree that is
> necessary. I'm thinking more age appropriate. For example, my son is not
> even 2 yet so he would have no concept of waiting for a punishment so 
> right
> away is a must because of his age and comprehension. The waiting thing
> couldn't possibly happen until he was much older and could understand 
> more.
> I'm glad you brought that up. Part of the reason I said that is because I
> have a problem with spanking in a group of a bunch of people. I know 
> someone
> that spanks her child in front of everyone and one night she spanked her 
> kid
> with Myles standing right beside her wedged in a corner where he couldn't
> get out. She knocked him down by accident when trying to discipline her
> child. It kind of frustrated me. She could have at least let my son out
> first. LOL.
>
> -- 
> Shannan Zinck
> Survival is letting GOD take over!!!
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