[blparent] discipline
Jo Elizabeth Pinto
jopinto at pcdesk.net
Tue Nov 16 20:00:16 UTC 2010
Personally, I have a big issue with someone spanking a child or even
scolding one too much in public. I don't want to do anything to my child
that I wouldn't want done to me, and I know for sure I wouldn't want to be
embarrassed in public. As best I can, I try to get to at least a
semi-private place. Also, I hear the way a lot of people talk to their
kids, and I think, no wonder the kids don't respect them. I think that most
times, a person can talk to a child in a calm, reasonable, and affirming
tone, and the message will get across. Once in a while, a more commanding
tone is necessary, to get through, but if you use it too often, your child
will just tune it out. Even when I am speaking firmly, like when I was
taking away a light bulb from Sarah last night because her dad had left the
burned-out bulb where she could get it, I said, "You need to give that to
me, please, right now. It's not safe for you to have." When I took it away
from her, I said, "Thank you. Now, shall we find something else to look
at?" She wasn't happy about giving up the lightbulb, which she called a
bottle, but not feeling happy about something is different from feeling
disrespected. I don't know how much Sarah picks up on at two years old, but
I figure it's best to get in the habit now of treating her the way I expect
her to treat others.
Jo Elizabeth
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From: "Shannan Zinck" <shannanzinck at gmail.com>
Sent: Tuesday, November 16, 2010 11:59 AM
To: <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: [blparent] discipline
> Hmmm, that is a good point about quickly. Sometimes I agree that is
> necessary. I'm thinking more age appropriate. For example, my son is not
> even 2 yet so he would have no concept of waiting for a punishment so
> right
> away is a must because of his age and comprehension. The waiting thing
> couldn't possibly happen until he was much older and could understand
> more.
> I'm glad you brought that up. Part of the reason I said that is because I
> have a problem with spanking in a group of a bunch of people. I know
> someone
> that spanks her child in front of everyone and one night she spanked her
> kid
> with Myles standing right beside her wedged in a corner where he couldn't
> get out. She knocked him down by accident when trying to discipline her
> child. It kind of frustrated me. She could have at least let my son out
> first. LOL.
>
> --
> Shannan Zinck
> Survival is letting GOD take over!!!
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