[blparent] discipline

[Jo Elizabeth Pinto]

Personally, I have a big issue with someone spanking a child or even 
scolding one too much in public.  I don't want to do anything to my child 
that I wouldn't want done to me, and I know for sure I wouldn't want to be 
embarrassed in public.  As best I can, I try to get to at least a 
semi-private place.  Also, I hear the way a lot of people talk to their 
kids, and I think, no wonder the kids don't respect them.  I think that most 
times, a person can talk to a child in a calm, reasonable, and affirming 
tone, and the message will get across.  Once in a while, a more commanding 
tone is necessary, to get through, but if you use it too often, your child 
will just tune it out.  Even when I am speaking firmly, like when I was 
taking away a light bulb from Sarah last night because her dad had left the 
burned-out bulb where she could get it, I said, "You need to give that to 
me, please, right now.  It's not safe for you to have."  When I took it away 
from her, I said, "Thank you.  Now, shall we find something else to look 
at?"  She wasn't happy about giving up the lightbulb, which she called a 
bottle, but not feeling happy about something is different from feeling 
disrespected.  I don't know how much Sarah picks up on at two years old, but 
I figure it's best to get in the habit now of treating her the way I expect 
her to treat others.

Jo Elizabeth

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From: "Shannan Zinck" <shannanzinck at gmail.com>
Sent: Tuesday, November 16, 2010 11:59 AM
To: <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: [blparent] discipline

> Hmmm, that is a good point about quickly. Sometimes I agree that is
> necessary. I'm thinking more age appropriate. For example, my son is not
> even 2 yet so he would have no concept of waiting for a punishment so 
> right
> away is a must because of his age and comprehension. The waiting thing
> couldn't possibly happen until he was much older and could understand 
> more.
> I'm glad you brought that up. Part of the reason I said that is because I
> have a problem with spanking in a group of a bunch of people. I know 
> someone
> that spanks her child in front of everyone and one night she spanked her 
> kid
> with Myles standing right beside her wedged in a corner where he couldn't
> get out. She knocked him down by accident when trying to discipline her
> child. It kind of frustrated me. She could have at least let my son out
> first. LOL.
>
> -- 
> Shannan Zinck
> Survival is letting GOD take over!!!
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