[blparent] First Questions About Blindness
ldavis5000 at sbcglobal.net
ldavis5000 at sbcglobal.net
Sun Oct 17 19:05:14 UTC 2010
Thank you for your explanation on your daughter's questions. I am a mentor
to a young woamn who is blind with a sighted 18 month old boy. This info
will come in handy. I have printed your email to share with my friend.
Kathy
----- Original Message -----
From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Tuesday, October 12, 2010 10:38 PM
Subject: [blparent] First Questions About Blindness
> Hi. I was wondering if some of you parents who have older children could
> recall and share how the issue of your blindness came up with your kids,
> and how you explained your disability to them simply enough so they could
> understand.
>
> A few weeks ago, something came up that I can't really remember, but for
> some reason I told Sarah, who is now two and a half, that my eyes didn't
> work. I said they were broken, which is a concept she usually
> understands. She said to me very seriously, "Mommy, they're not open."
> So I told her my eyes didn't work even when they were open. She said in a
> very matter-of-fact way, "Just open them."
>
> Toddlers move on pretty easily, so the subject was quickly dropped. I
> started noticing that Sarah would say, "By your left, by your left" when I
> was searching for something, although she didn't know what "left" meant.
> She'd just heard other people saying it. Sometimes she would stay "step"
> when we came to a curb, and although I wouldn't rely on her directions as
> consistent or trustworthy, I've thanked her for telling me just because it
> seems to me like a considerate thing to do.
>
> One day last week, we were going to a restaurant, and she asked me if I
> would be taking my eyes with me. I said yes, and she asked if she could
> take her eyes, too. I said yes, she could, and she promptly poked herself
> in the eye, seeming like she was trying to get her eyeball in her hand.
> So I told her that we all have eyes which are part of our bodies, and that
> they didn't come off.
>
> The thing that has started getting me kind of concerned is that Sarah and
> I will be playing with a toy or doing something, and she'll start saying,
> "Mommy, open your eyes. Don't close your eyes." I have no voluntary
> control over whether my eyes are open or closed. Or she'll say, "I have
> to close my eyes like Mommy." Then tonight, I was sitting on the floor
> and she stood in front of me, pinched one of my cheeks with each of her
> hands, and said, "Mommy, don't do that with your face." Something was
> obviously bothering her because she continued to say the same thing. I
> asked her what she meant, and she said, "The pancake face. I don't wanna
> see the pancake." (God knows where she got that.)
>
> Anyway, I didn't know what to say. One of the concerns my sister brought
> up when I first got pregnant was that my facial expressions don't always
> fit naturally with the situation that is going on, and that my baby would
> pick up on that. My sister tends to be kind of superficial and focused on
> appearance, and it surely isn't that big of a deal, but I'm wondering what
> you all told your kids, or how the issues resolved themselves. Please
> forgive the long post, but I felt I should explain the progression of
> things.
>
> Jo Elizabeth
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