[blparent] school teacher - not an issue

Wed Aug 24 16:58:26 UTC 2011

I recommend talking with a director of a training center and making a plan together to approach DOR with a laser guided request. 

It is your right to go practice wherever you wish; all you need is the resolve to commit to a plan. It will work. There are so many people out there that can help make it happen for you and your family. 

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Amanda Winkler
Sent: Wednesday, August 24, 2011 9:32 AM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] school teacher - not an issue

That’s right; DOR will not send you out of state until you take advantage of 
the resources that are provided in your state first.  The reason is mainly 
money, most centers charge an out of state rate which is a much higher cost. 
Once you have completed your general training in your state then they are 
more out to send you out of state for a more focused training, which does 
not take as long.  Talk to your DOR counselor again to find out all your 
options.  Make sure you tell them about your son, your entire situation, and 
what you want to accomplish.  You’ll have to decide if you want something 
that allows you to stay at home or leave your son with family while you get 
training.  I know it sounds like a lot of hassle and work but in the end it 
will help you be more confident about taking care of your son and yourself. 
Over time your dad will see that you can do it.  Your parents taught you as 
much as they could without knowing how a blind individual does things.  It 
takes training and a lot of practice on your part to be consistently good at 
everything you want to do.  I am not sure if you know but many places that 
help the blind have some kind of peer support.  All this is a support group 
where you meet other blind individuals that come together to discuss their 
problems and help each other to find solutions or make new friends.  This 
list is great but there is no substitute for actual human-to-human 
interaction.  You did it with sight and you can do it better and accomplish 
your dreams without sight.

Amanda
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From: "Nikki" <daizies304 at comcast.net>
Sent: Tuesday, August 23, 2011 8:04 PM
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] school teacher - not an issue

>    I didn't learn about LCB or LWSB until earlier this year.
> I mentioned wanting to go to LWSB to my DOHRS counselor, but she said 
> something I forgot and was enough for me to drop the idea.
>
> Oh it had to do with money, how they're not going to send someone out of 
> state if their not independent enough here, and that I could easily get 
> trained here.
> IDK what that was all about, but I dropped the idea and never brought it 
> up again.
>
>
>
> -----Original Message----- 
> From: Chad Allen
> Sent: Tuesday, August 23, 2011 9:39 PM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] school teacher - not an issue
>
> Do you know about the Colorado Center for the Blind, BLIND Inc., and 
> Louisiana Center for the Blind?
>
>
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On 
> Behalf Of Nikki
> Sent: Tuesday, August 23, 2011 7:21 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] school teacher - not an issue
>
>    Yes!
> I appreciate all the boosts of confidence, thank you.
> I will definitely be taking control, putting my foot down.
> And Yes, my mom steps in and does things for me, but she's different about
> it each time.
>
> Some days she'll ask and other days she won't realize what she did until
> after it's done, then she apologizes.
> But since I don't see her much, she can't really do anything for me.
> Besides, she wants me to be independent.
> It's my dad that has a hard time letting go.
>
>
> -----Original Message----- 
> From: Erin Rumer
> Sent: Tuesday, August 23, 2011 5:31 PM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] school teacher - not an issue
>
> Yes Nikky, tell your dad, "Haven't you heard the saying don't cry over 
> spilt
> milk?" SMILING!
>
> Erin
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Veronica Smith
> Sent: Tuesday, August 23, 2011 3:28 PM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] school teacher - not an issue
>
> Nikki, I have faith in you and if I were you, I would say, "even sighted
> peeps make messes."  Next time, say no thank you to the glass and reach 
> over
> and take control.  If you always let him, he will always be the same.
> Remember though, I am not perfect nor do I claim to be.  I know how 
> parents
> are, my mom and dad tried to do it all for me, but I finally started just
> doing it and they finally saw that  I could.
> How abut your mom, does she try to do it all for you as well?  Like I 
> said,
> Nikki, you can take control.  Tell dad thanks, but no thanks and if you do
> spill the milk, you and only you should be the one to clean up after
> yourself. V
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Nikki
> Sent: Tuesday, August 23, 2011 4:00 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] school teacher - not an issue
>
>            Hi Debbie.
> I feel as though I shouldn't have to prove my capabilities to my parents.
> It is MY son, isn't it?
> I shouldn't feel like I'm being controlled just because I live in their
> house, you know?
>
> Rebecca.
> I have a laptop and my parents respect my privacy, so no worries there.
> If anything were to come up, you can be certain I'll make sure they hear
> about it.
> I am the youngest of 2. My older brother lives with his family.
> As far as friends, I have a couple, but not going to talk to them about my
> feelings.
>
> V, my son constantly reminds me and my parents that I'm the boss.
> So, if he wants something and asks my mom, she tells him, "go ask your 
> mom."
> I'm the one in charge.
>
> As far as my dad doing everything, I'm ashamed and embarrassed.
> I get frustrated when we're both in the kitchen, I get the milk and a 
> glass.
> In the midst of what he's doing, stops and takes these items from me and
> pours the glass for me.
> Now, I'm able to do this myself and today, I told him, "what are you 
> doing?
> I can do this myself."
> IDK what exactly he said, but I think he said,"I know." I asked him, "then
> why aren't you letting me do it myself?
> His response told me he has little or no confidence in me. He said, "I 
> just
> washed the counter. I don't want to clean it again."
> Do you know what that does to someone's self esteem?
>
> So, it's not so much me letting him do everything. His stress he has, is
> brought on by himself.
> I may need to fix some things with myself, but God and I are working on 
> it.
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> -----Original Message----- 
> From: Deborah Kent Stein
> Sent: Tuesday, August 23, 2011 12:12 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] school teacher - not an issue
>
>
>
> Dear Nikki,
>
> Great news!  The more you take control, the more your folks are likely to
> see how capable you are.
>
> Debbie
>
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Nikki" <daizies304 at comcast.net>
> To: <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Tuesday, August 23, 2011 10:03 AM
> Subject: [blparent] school teacher - not an issue
>
>
>> Just an update...
>>
>>        Hi all.
>> I want to thank you all for the confidence boost.
>> My dad, son, and I went to meet the teacher yesterday.
>> I asked her if she could email me the handouts and I was very pleased to
>> find out that she would be happy to do it for me.
>> But my dad still requested the paper handouts for himself.
>> IDK why, but it was rather upsetting that he feels he has to be involved.
>>
>> Anyway, success!
>> Oh and I’m going to pick my son up from school, give my dad a break, lol.
>>
>> It’s confusing to me that my parents complain, mainly my dad, about 
>> having
>> to do everything, but when I take a stand, it back fires.
>> Meaning, it’s hard for him to accept me being independent.
>>
>> Nikki
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