[blparent] presents?

Fri Dec 30 17:32:04 UTC 2011

I have not found the answer to keeping the room clean yet. With my oldest I
will sometimes help in his room after he helps me with a project. This only
works if he perceives it as me doing him a favor. It also gives us a little
time to talk.

You might consider just getting the decorative things up in the room with
the idea that if he has a reason to be proud of his room he will be more
likely to keep it clean. Right now you have a power struggle going on and
winning may be more important to him than getting that stuff up in his room.
Power struggles are ultimatly only a loosing situation for a parent. Even if
you win, and really you need to, your adolescent is going  to be resentful.
Pick your battles is just as important as a parenting principle for this
older age group.

Some parents do a weekly or bi-weekly room inspection and ignore the bedroom
otherwise. This is what I am thinking of doing for my oldest too. It needs
some kind of reward and consequence element that I still have not worked out
yet. This is mostly so I can be sure the sheets are changed regularly and
basic health codes are maintained. :)

Jennifer
-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
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Sent: Thursday, December 29, 2011 7:11 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] presents?

That's what I tell myself too, if you clean your room we'll decorate, if you

don't we won't ... but his messy yucky room drives me crazy!!

-----Original Message----- 
From: Barbara Hammel
Sent: Wednesday, December 28, 2011 9:00 PM
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Well, if he wants the stuff up in his room, he'll clean it.  You've put it
on him and that's okay.  Just think, if he doesn't clean, you don't have to
do the work.  If he wants it without cleaning he'll just have to put it up
himself.  See?  Still no work for you.
Barbara

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any price, bear any burden, meet any hardship, support any friend, oppose
any foe, in order to assure the survival and the success of liberty.--John
F. Kennedy
-----Original Message----- 
From: Peggy
Sent: Wednesday, December 28, 2011 6:45 PM
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Oh too funny, just getting to these Christmas e-mails.  My lo got the read
along puppy and he's deaf as well ... after the second or third time saying
And Jingle was a good dog he might then respond ... we started saying and
Jingle was a partially deaf dog, lol.  He also got some blocks, some little
people things, a tool bench, and his favorite which is Thomas the train or
his "Choo-choo"!!  My older son is 11 and he got the new ds and some games
and he's decorating his room for the Nebraska Huskers so he got some things
to finish his room off ... but in order for me to help him decorate, he has
to clean it.  Any of you have this problem??

-----Original Message----- 
From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
Sent: Tuesday, December 27, 2011 9:40 AM
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I also bought my nephew one of those helicopters a few years ago, and it
crash landed and broke within a few minutes.

Santa brought Sarah the Dora the Explorer kitchen she'd been wanting, as
well as a turtle tent she can actually sleep in.  Now she wants a sleeping
bag to go with the tent, so she asked if Santa would come back and give her
one.  I said no, Santa's going to have a long rest, but her birthday is
coming up.  She got some puzzles and new pajamas, a magnetic fishing game,
and a toy camera with animal slides to look at.  She also got a bus and an
airplane for her Little People toys, which she still plays with a lot even
as she gets older.  She got a new playdough set, and her uncle bought her a
bunch of markers and other art supplies.  She got a bear with a story book,
and when you read parts of the book, the bear responds--although sometimes
he does, sometimes he doesn't.  We were joking that the bear is a little
hard of hearing, you kind of have to shout at him before he answers.
Stephen bought Sarah a Happy Napper, which is a ladybug you can pull the
insides out of to make a pillow.  Sarah also got some print/braille books I
can read to her, of which "Quiet Loud" is her favorite.  The other two are
Dr. Seuss.

We bought Stephen a telescope because he likes to look at the stars and try
to see planets and things.  I bought him a puzzle of World War II aircraft
and a game called Totally Gross, which is facts you never really wanted to
know about science and nature.  For example, did you know a goose can poop a
whole pound in one day?  So, with millions of geese flying around, that's
millions of pounds of ... you get the picture.  His mom bought him an Ipod
and a scooter you stand on and ride, which I thought was kind of
crazy--that's a lot of money, but what can you do?

I got Gerald a remote start for his car so he could warm it up in the winter
before he goes out, and I won't have to hear about what a drag it is to get
in a cold car.  *Smile.*  I got some new slippers, flannel-lined jeans, a
fluffy robe--I sense a cold theme going on here.

Anyway, merry Christmas to you all.
Jo Elizabeth

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young,
compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of
the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been all of
these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist

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From: "Pipi" <blahblahblah0822 at gmail.com>
Sent: Monday, December 26, 2011 9:59 PM
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> I remember getting my nephew a helocopter a couple of years ago and having

> a similar experience. They don't make toys like they used to.
> Savannah got a cabbage patch, a baby alive doll, a dora puzzle play mat, a

> tool kit, clothes which she opened screamed happily and said i love them 
> lol, um she got a gift card, a personalized backpack, a littliest pet shop

> remote control car, a cleaning set, and some new play food.
> I received new slippers and pj pants, a real jewelry box for once in my 
> life, which i love, new boots, gift cards, and new yoga pants.
> I wasn't expecting all of the gifts that I received, but was completely 
> grateful for all.
> It was a lovely day with just enough family, plenty of food, and lots of 
> love.
> Pipi
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