[blparent] troubled parent

[sharon howerton]

Nikki, Jo Elizabeth gives sound advice. Your son may be 5 now, but what 
happens when he's not too many years older and stronger than you. I can 
appreciate that you are in your parents' house and probably dependent on 
them, perhaps for transportation and things, so may not be able to do with 
your son what you may want, but it sounds like both you and he need some 
pretty significant help.
Sharon
And I did receive your message through Hadley and did respond to it.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Nikki" <daizies304 at comcast.net>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Thursday, March 24, 2011 11:16 AM
Subject: Re: [blparent] troubled parent


>    Hi Sharon,
>
> I took one of your courses about 6 or 7 years ago. I also emailed you 
> about this and am very surprised to get a message from you here. Very 
> cool.
>
> I did however, suggest some kind of testing or counseling. It seems like 
> my dad's logic of spanking will do the trick. Spanking to me is last on my 
> list if at all. When I mentioned the counseling or testing, my mom, being 
> in the medical proffession, formed a question that upset me. She asked, do 
> you really want doctors to perscribe him medicine to take for ADD or 
> whatever it could be? Because that's what they'll do. My dad agreed and 
> said, I'd rather see him spanked more. Now, I'm not getting him tested so 
> they can pump him with drugs. I really don't believe in giving medicine to 
> a child will fix their behavior. I believe if I just spent more time with 
> him, engaging in his activity, things would be fine.
>
> I'm currently seeing a christian counselor for family issues, one topic 
> being this very one. I just started last month and don't see her very 
> often so I can't say it's halping yet. Thanks for your input.
>
> -----Original Message----- 
> From: sharon howerton
> Sent: Thursday, March 24, 2011 6:24 AM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] troubled parent
>
> Nikki, perhaps others have responded to you by now. If your son is in 
> school
> and experiencing similar problems, you might ask for an assessment for
> counselling or ADHD. Just like you are experiencing stress, he is, too, 
> but
> doesn't have the same verbal outlets adults do. You may also try to locate
> counselling services for yourself as it sounds like you have stresses, 
> too.
> Those transmit to our kids and may contribute to the acting out behavior
> you've described.
> Good luck.
> Sharon (whose sons are grown but still live at home; I also am an 
> instructor
> with the Hadley School and teach our Parenting series)
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Nikki" <daizies304 at comcast.net>
> To: <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Wednesday, March 23, 2011 10:26 PM
> Subject: [blparent] troubled parent
>
>
>>        Nikki here and very distressed. Divorced mother of a 5 year old 
>> boy. Live with parents, ugh!
>>
>> I need behavioral modifacations other than spanking. He doesn’t listen 
>> well, follow directions, stay focused, and talks when he’s not supposed 
>> to.
>>
>> Wanting to stay away from spanking for punishment. Anyone have any advice 
>> for me?
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