[blparent] troubled parent

[Veronica Smith]

Time out will work, but maybe instead of 5 minutes, 1 minute for every year old, you can start with 2 minutes.  Tell him he can swing his feet, but that will be the only way he can move.  If you don't try, it won't work.  Don't give up!  

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Nikki
Sent: Wednesday, March 23, 2011 10:15 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] troubled parent

    His daddy abandoned him. He doesn't call or write. Time out, huh? Well, 
I don't think it would work with my gremlin. He can't sit still. He's gotta 
be constantly moving and that's trouble for me because I fatigue easily.

-----Original Message----- 
From: Tammy
Sent: Wednesday, March 23, 2011 10:50 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] troubled parent

Hi,

Have you tried time outs?  My son is 6 and they work well for us.  Your son 
sounds like mine, that is to say that what you describe sounds very typical 
of children of that age group.  Also, you say you’re divorced, and I don’t 
mean to get too personal, but does your son’s behaviour esculate around 
visits from or to his father’?  If so, this might be a trigger, and you may 
want to talk to your son about how he feels about being with his dad, verses 
being with you.  Don’t make it stressful for him, but just talk to him about 
his favourite things at both places, and whatever you do, don’t say anything 
negative about his father, even though that’s very hard at times.  He may be 
confused about why he has to go back and forth, or even why you’re living 
with your parents.  You never know what little kids are thinking and talking 
to them can open doors for the two of you that will allow for bonding, and a 
closer relationship.  I don’t know if any of this will help, but I’m 
divorced from my son’s father, and he has a step-father now, but it’s been a 
bumpy road for him.  This may not be the case for you, but talking and 
timeouts might just help smooth the bumps a little.

hth

Tammy

From: Nikki
Sent: Wednesday, March 23, 2011 11:26 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: [blparent] troubled parent

        Nikki here and very distressed. Divorced mother of a 5 year old boy. 
Live with parents, ugh!

I need behavioral modifacations other than spanking. He doesn’t listen well, 
follow directions, stay focused, and talks when he’s not supposed to.

Wanting to stay away from spanking for punishment. Anyone have any advice 
for me?
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