[blparent] troubled parent

[Stephanie Mitchell]

Stimes, you just have to make them do it.  I used to think that 
they should clean up etc and they should, but some times you have 
to stay with them and make sure it's done.  We have the silence 
rule here.  If you keep talking when told not too, and are put on 
silence until the timer goes off.
Steph


 ----- Original Message -----
From: "PICKRELL, REBECCA M (TASC)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at tasc.com
To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List' <blparent at nfbnet.org
Date sent: Thu, 24 Mar 2011 12:52:08 +0000
Subject: Re: [blparent] troubled parent

Totally agree wite time outdoors.
Also think you need to be clear to him in what he needs to do.  I 
read your note and have no idea what it is you need him to do.  
What does "talking when he's not supposed to" mean? What about 
"not listening or following directions".
Seriously, you do need to be very clear to him in what he needs 
to do in a step by step way.
As for time out, I'm not sure it would work.  Part of me thinks 
he just may need some cuddle time.
Time outs don't work with my kid.  I'll put her stuff in time out 
as that does work.  So if I need her to clean up her trains, and 
she won't then I'll say "Okay, they will go into time out" and if 
she still doesn't agree to clean them up or at least help me do 
so while being a pleasant human being, then I'll put them in time 
out for the rest of the day.
Finally, does your mom or dad have any insights? My parents are 
great at giving me some good perspective.  Do you do any 
activities such as church? I ask because your son will be exposed 
to people who aren't getting paid to spend time with him.  They 
may have some useful perspectives as well.


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[mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Chad Allen
Sent: Wednesday, March 23, 2011 11:45 PM
To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] troubled parent

My suggestion is to be diligent on having time outdoors every 
day.  Find something, even if it’s the same thing daily that 
involves the outdoors.  I have n eight month old so its very 
different but I notice that if I keep him indoors for too long, 
he gets edgy.  We hike, we walk, we shop, something to change his 
environment and it usually immediately helps.

I bet it will be good for you too.  Stay strong and good luck.

Chad


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[mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Nikki
Sent: Wednesday, March 23, 2011 8:27 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: [blparent] troubled parent

        Nikki here and very distressed.  Divorced mother of a 5 
year old boy.  Live with parents, ugh!

I need behavioral modifacations other than spanking.  He 
doesn’t listen well, follow directions, stay focused, and talks 
when he’s not supposed to.

Wanting to stay away from spanking for punishment.  Anyone have 
any advice for me?
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