[blparent] Beware those sharp little eyes!

Thu Nov 10 16:39:53 UTC 2011

But we as adults have to teach them morals and respect.I have a friend
who's child who is 6 is trying to get away with things because Mom and
Dad are blind. This behavior starts somewhare. Maybe he has seen other
family members do it. I just think we need to be careful of the messages
we send kids.
On Thu, 10 Nov 2011 14:02:50 +0000
"Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at tasc.com> wrote:

> Kids are smart. They'd only be confused by this senario if they wanted to be.
> 
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> Sent: Wednesday, November 09, 2011 5:11 PM
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> Subject: Re: [blparent] Beware those sharp little eyes!
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> I totally agree Peggy. But at the same time, I think we blind or sighted
> need to be carefull about justifying lies to children. For example, sure
> it's Ok to lie about Christmas or birthday presents, but children don't
> understand the context. So for example, if I have a child  who happens
> to be sighted, and he plays with a blind friend, and he comes home with
> a toy that belongs to the friend and he justifies, "well, I took this
> toy because my friend couldn't see me doing it" How  do you then
> rationalize that it is or is not ok to do things in front of a blind
> person  because they can't see. I think when it comes to presents we
> rationalize lying and it could confuse kids.
> On Wed, 09 Nov 2011 16:02:22 -0600
> "Peggy" <pshald at neb.rr.com> wrote:
> 
> > Thanks for the warning, I should have given it to you guys only before this
> > happened!!  My older kids have seen presents before it was time when I
> > forgot they were in a closet and opened a door or in a drawer or under
> > something ... those little eyes are quick!!!  Once when it was my older
> > son's bday he went into my bedroom and I didn't know it and before I found
> > him he'd gotten all of his wrapped bday presents out and unwrapped them,
> > sneaky little farts that they are, lol!!
> >
> > As far as the whole sneaking things in because you're blind or married or
> > whatever, I see both sides of it and there are different situations for
> > everyone.  I'm sure my parents shopped for me while I was with them because
> > I'm blind, I know my daughter still does it because sometimes she won't let
> > me feel in the cart.  Does it bother me??  Heck no because I'd do the same
> > thing.  My middle child isn't very observant and a lot of times I buy his
> > presents with him right there and he never notices.  My lo is too little to
> > remember so I buy his presents with him there as well.  Blind or little or
> > non-observant, I think all of us have to do what we can to get sooooo many
> > things done at once and especially with blind parents while we have the
> > sighted assistance to help.
> >
> >
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
> > Sent: Wednesday, November 09, 2011 10:32 AM
> > To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> > Subject: [blparent] Beware those sharp little eyes!
> >
> > Hi.  For any of you moms who have little ones starting to run around and get
> > into things, I thought I'd warn you about something I just learned the hard
> > way.  *Smile.*  They'll see everything, especially what you don't want them
> > to, and they'll remember.  They're smarter than we give them credit for.
> >
> > I bought Sarah the Little People school bus because she's really into buses
> > and planes and the like right now.  The package came from Amazon while she
> > was at preschool about a month ago, and I threw the boxes in the recycling
> > bin and hid the toy at the top of my closet, thinking I was pretty slick.
> > Well, she saw part of a picture on one box sticking out of the bin.  She
> > asked about it, and I glossed over it.  We moved on, and I thought she'd
> > forgotten about the bus.
> >
> > So this morning, I went to get a shirt from the closet, and Sarah wandered
> > in behind me.  All at once, she started jumping up and down, saying, "I see
> > it!  Up there!  The bus toy really is here!  I want that bus toy!"
> >
> > I guess I didn't hide it well enough.  She saw the box peeking out from
> > under a blanket on a high shelf and remembered the picture from the
> > recycling bin.  She had a bit of a meltdown because she knew the toy was
> > there, but I wouldn't get it off the shelf for her.  I couldn't really
> > explain why, either.  Now Santa Claus can't bring that toy to her, either,
> > because it'll blow his cover.  I'll have to give it to her from Mom and Dad,
> > or maybe from her brother Stephen.  Anyway, my point is, when I was a kid,
> > my family could (and did) wrap my presents right in front of me.  But
> > obviously, blind parents of sighted kids have to be very careful about these
> > things.
> >
> > Jo Elizabeth
> >
> > "How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young,
> > compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of
> > the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been all of
> > these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist
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