[blparent] Beware those sharp little eyes!

Thu Nov 10 17:11:46 UTC 2011

The kid is six, that's part of growing up, learning what lies matter and what doesn't. We all try to do things we can get away with. It's called being human. 
Or to be more blunt, he'd be pulling that crap if one or both of his parents could see. 

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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Marla Wertman
Sent: Thursday, November 10, 2011 11:40 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] Beware those sharp little eyes!

But we as adults have to teach them morals and respect.I have a friend
who's child who is 6 is trying to get away with things because Mom and
Dad are blind. This behavior starts somewhare. Maybe he has seen other
family members do it. I just think we need to be careful of the messages
we send kids.
On Thu, 10 Nov 2011 14:02:50 +0000
"Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at tasc.com> wrote:

> Kids are smart. They'd only be confused by this senario if they wanted to be.
> 
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> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Marla Wertman
> Sent: Wednesday, November 09, 2011 5:11 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Beware those sharp little eyes!
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> I totally agree Peggy. But at the same time, I think we blind or sighted
> need to be carefull about justifying lies to children. For example, sure
> it's Ok to lie about Christmas or birthday presents, but children don't
> understand the context. So for example, if I have a child  who happens
> to be sighted, and he plays with a blind friend, and he comes home with
> a toy that belongs to the friend and he justifies, "well, I took this
> toy because my friend couldn't see me doing it" How  do you then
> rationalize that it is or is not ok to do things in front of a blind
> person  because they can't see. I think when it comes to presents we
> rationalize lying and it could confuse kids.
> On Wed, 09 Nov 2011 16:02:22 -0600
> "Peggy" <pshald at neb.rr.com> wrote:
> 
> > Thanks for the warning, I should have given it to you guys only before this
> > happened!!  My older kids have seen presents before it was time when I
> > forgot they were in a closet and opened a door or in a drawer or under
> > something ... those little eyes are quick!!!  Once when it was my older
> > son's bday he went into my bedroom and I didn't know it and before I found
> > him he'd gotten all of his wrapped bday presents out and unwrapped them,
> > sneaky little farts that they are, lol!!
> >
> > As far as the whole sneaking things in because you're blind or married or
> > whatever, I see both sides of it and there are different situations for
> > everyone.  I'm sure my parents shopped for me while I was with them because
> > I'm blind, I know my daughter still does it because sometimes she won't let
> > me feel in the cart.  Does it bother me??  Heck no because I'd do the same
> > thing.  My middle child isn't very observant and a lot of times I buy his
> > presents with him right there and he never notices.  My lo is too little to
> > remember so I buy his presents with him there as well.  Blind or little or
> > non-observant, I think all of us have to do what we can to get sooooo many
> > things done at once and especially with blind parents while we have the
> > sighted assistance to help.
> >
> >
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
> > Sent: Wednesday, November 09, 2011 10:32 AM
> > To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> > Subject: [blparent] Beware those sharp little eyes!
> >
> > Hi.  For any of you moms who have little ones starting to run around and get
> > into things, I thought I'd warn you about something I just learned the hard
> > way.  *Smile.*  They'll see everything, especially what you don't want them
> > to, and they'll remember.  They're smarter than we give them credit for.
> >
> > I bought Sarah the Little People school bus because she's really into buses
> > and planes and the like right now.  The package came from Amazon while she
> > was at preschool about a month ago, and I threw the boxes in the recycling
> > bin and hid the toy at the top of my closet, thinking I was pretty slick.
> > Well, she saw part of a picture on one box sticking out of the bin.  She
> > asked about it, and I glossed over it.  We moved on, and I thought she'd
> > forgotten about the bus.
> >
> > So this morning, I went to get a shirt from the closet, and Sarah wandered
> > in behind me.  All at once, she started jumping up and down, saying, "I see
> > it!  Up there!  The bus toy really is here!  I want that bus toy!"
> >
> > I guess I didn't hide it well enough.  She saw the box peeking out from
> > under a blanket on a high shelf and remembered the picture from the
> > recycling bin.  She had a bit of a meltdown because she knew the toy was
> > there, but I wouldn't get it off the shelf for her.  I couldn't really
> > explain why, either.  Now Santa Claus can't bring that toy to her, either,
> > because it'll blow his cover.  I'll have to give it to her from Mom and Dad,
> > or maybe from her brother Stephen.  Anyway, my point is, when I was a kid,
> > my family could (and did) wrap my presents right in front of me.  But
> > obviously, blind parents of sighted kids have to be very careful about these
> > things.
> >
> > Jo Elizabeth
> >
> > "How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young,
> > compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of
> > the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been all of
> > these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist
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