[blparent] stranger contact with your child

[Amanda Winkler]

Surprisingly, most people did want to see my child but did ask nicely and if 
for what ever reason I had they respected me for my decision.  I did have 
one woman come up very close to me and demand to see my child.  At that 
moment the sun was very bright and my daughter is light sensitive so I told 
her that she was not feeling well and I did not want to disturb her.  She 
started to become more insistent on that I show her my child. After the 
second time I said no my husband placed himself between me and this woman 
and made her go away. She threw a fit about me not getting to see my child 
to anyone who would listen to her.  A few weeks later I over heard her make 
a comment about this situation to someone on a bus .

Amanda

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From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
Sent: Thursday, October 20, 2011 8:26 PM
To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] stranger contact with your child

> And another thing that bugged the heck out of me, here in NM, not sure if
> they do this everywhere, older women, older catholic women, to be more
> specific will come up to you and your tiny baby and kiss their head and 
> then
> make the sign of the cross.  I know the gesture is to bless your baby, but
> come on, I do not want stranger's germs on my baby.  Even when I was
> pregnant, they would come up and touch my stomach and bless me.  The 
> gesture
> is nice and I should be thankful for it, but like I said, "don't tuch me."
> Can't they just throw the peace sign? v
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Erin Rumer
> Sent: Thursday, October 20, 2011 12:45 PM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] stranger contact with your child
>
> I hear ya on this but we can find comfort in knowing that sighted folks 
> get
> this with their kids as well from the public.  My sighted friends tell me
> how people take liberties with their kids without asking at it does make 
> me
> happy to know that it's not just a blindness related thing.
>
> Congrats on your soon to be baby Jan!  You must be so excited!
>
> Erin
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of jan wright
> Sent: Thursday, October 20, 2011 11:26 AM
> To: blparent
> Subject: [blparent] stranger contact with your child
>
> This is annoying, i'll admit. I was not jealous that they could see my
> children's facial expressions and I couldn't.
> It is annoying because it is the start of people communicating with your
> baby or child without your knowledge and I would caution that you do need 
> to
> be a little careful.
> Sometimes, people can take liberties with your child.
> the thing that annoys me most in this stage is that people don't even give
> you a respectful: "Oh,  you have a cute baby, do you mind?" They just 
> assume
> that you don't mind. Note: they do some of the same things with my dog and
> it bothers me, also. I think that it is just respectful to talk to the 
> adult
> first. And, the more I think about it the more i am convinced that it is
> just plain rude!
> When my children were older, people would give them candy that I did not
> want them to have; or toys to play with that were sometimes inappropriate.
> They would try to comfort or quiet your child and sometimes they were 
> doing
> much more harm than good.
> I hate to be the web blanket in this discussion: but, these are the same
> adults who would rather talk to your child or your dog before having a
> conversation with you. I always found it strange that after I got my dog
> (and my children were teens) I experienced the same reaction from people.
> They would say to my children: "You are so sweet," "You are such a good
> baby," (and much more annoying comments).
> And, now that I have the dog, they want to talk to the dog: "You are such 
> a
> good boy." GRRRR! And, I know that I am going to experience more of the 
> same
> when I have my baby boy (seven more weeks until the due date).
> it is strange, though. It is harder to ward off unwanted behaviors from 
> the
> sighted public and also harder to connect with them when we want to. UGGG.
>
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