[blparent] stranger contact with your child

[Veronica Smith]

You are not a wet blanket at all and that is what I said, I'd rather them
not talk to me or my baby.  My baby got enough stimulation from peeps we
know but no matter how hard we  try, they are out there and unless we sit at
home, never go out, we are going to incounter all of them and they are
always going to smile and talk to our tiny tots with or without our
permission. What I started doing, when Gab made a peep like a google or
giggle, I'd talk to the person, saying hello or he/she is cute isn't she/he?
I'd steer the attention away from Gab.  Well that was if I noticed them, if
it was just a quick passing as someone charged out of a bus, I'd just say to
Gab, say bye bye.  Babies are just too cute, but like I said, no one was
allowed to hold her. Nope, no way.  I always had visions of someone walking
away with her. v

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of jan wright
Sent: Thursday, October 20, 2011 12:26 PM
To: blparent
Subject: [blparent] stranger contact with your child

This is annoying, i'll admit. I was not jealous that they could see my
children's facial expressions and I couldn't.
It is annoying because it is the start of people communicating with
your baby or child without your knowledge and I would caution that you
do need to be a little careful.
Sometimes, people can take liberties with your child.
the thing that annoys me most in this stage is that people don't even
give you a respectful: "Oh,  you have a cute baby, do you mind?" They
just assume that you don't mind. Note: they do some of the same things
with my dog and it bothers me, also. I think that it is just
respectful to talk to the adult first. And, the more I think about it
the more i am convinced that it is just plain rude!
When my children were older, people would give them candy that I did
not want them to have; or toys to play with that were sometimes
inappropriate. They would try to comfort or quiet your child and
sometimes they were doing much more harm than good.
 I hate to be the web blanket in this discussion: but, these are the
same adults who would rather talk to your child or your dog before
having a conversation with you. I always found it strange that after I
got my dog (and my children were teens) I experienced the same
reaction from people. They would say to my children: "You are so
sweet," "You are such a good baby," (and much more annoying comments).
And, now that I have the dog, they want to talk to the dog: "You are
such a good boy." GRRRR! And, I know that I am going to experience
more of the same when I have my baby boy (seven more weeks until the
due date).
it is strange, though. It is harder to ward off unwanted behaviors
from the sighted public and also harder to connect with them when we
want to. UGGG.

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