[blparent] Potty time again...

Wed Sep 21 19:24:00 UTC 2011

Thank you.

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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Nikki Fugett-Dobens
Sent: Wednesday, September 21, 2011 3:15 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] Potty time again...

It wasn't that a phone consultation wouldn't have been ok.  It was the fact
that at that particular office, a doctor wouldn't talk with me at all before
bringing her in for her first well baby visit. I was told they did not
usually do that. Looking on a web site is not the same as talking with an
actual person.
The reason I did a phone consultation before we moved was because I didn't
have too much notice.  I only had about a month, and because of my job, I
didn't have the opportunity to go up beforehand.  It might not have been
ideal, but it was kind of the way it had to be.  Fortunately, I liked the
practice when I met with her face to face.  If I didn't, I guess we would
have had to start the search over.

-----Original Message-----
From: Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)
Sent: Wednesday, September 21, 2011 2:55 PM
To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] Potty time again...

I think part of why some doctors won't do a preconsult is that they can't
bill for that time.
Nicky, I'm curious, why was a phone consult okay when you and your husband
moved, but not okay before your daughter was born?

Aside from blindness, you want to make sure your peditritian understands
your lifestyle. Do both parents work? What is the childcare situation?  Are
their other children in the picture?  All those impact what you may or may
not be able to do in terms of any number of scenarios.  "Sleep when the baby
sleeps" sounds great, though it doesn't work so well if you have older
children who don't much care that Mama was up all night, or if you have to
be at work the next morning.

Jan, I wrote you off-list about this, but if you found the Bradley midwives
to have  anegative bias, you need to contact the great Bradley in the sky
and let them know of your experience.  My understanding with Bradley is that
you accept their method or you find somebody else. Still, if they were being
unkind or unprofessional you need to tell the big Bradley of your concerns.
>From what I know of Bradley, it's not the place to go if you want cultural
sensitivity.

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Nikki Fugett-Dobens
Sent: Wednesday, September 21, 2011 1:52 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] Potty time again...

Hi.  I know exactly how you're feeling as far as having a strong-willed
child.  Mackenzie turned 3 in July, and once, when she was 18 months, she
peed on the potty.  After that, she wanted nothing to do with it for over a
year.  When I would try to have her sit on the potty, she would throw
herself on the floor.
Then, when she started pre school, eventually, she would usethe potty all
day at school, but never at home.  She said that she was a baby, and could
only use the potty at school.  You know the logic little ones have! :)
However, just recently, she came home, and told me she wanted to wear big
girl panties.  We had put a pair of princess underware on, and that seemed
to help motivate her.
She is getting to the point now that she will actually just go to the potty
when she has to go, but we still have days of difficulty.  I know, however,
that she is ready.  I think I got caught up in the trap of worrying too
much, because I would hear other children being potty trained by the age of
2.  Sometimes, that happens, but if it doesn't, and they're a little older,
it's ok.  When they're 10, no one is going to care when they were potty
trained.  I think, in Mackenzie's case, she just saw other kids her age she
plays with in church and school using the potty, and she wanted her own
independence.
I guess what I have learned is that she really will go consistently when
she's ready.  Of course, there will still be an accident now and then, but I
personally don't believe in punishing them.  I always tell Mackenzie it's
ok, and that it's good that she tried to get there in time.
I hope this helps!
Nikki

-----Original Message-----
From: Pipi
Sent: Wednesday, September 21, 2011 12:29 PM
To: blindparenting at googlegroups.com
Subject: [blparent] Potty time again...

Prepare for a novel...
I'm sure y'all are sick of this topic from me already, but well it's been
the toughest thing I've dealt with so far.
Here's where we are now.
A few weeks ago, Savannah ended up wearing a pull up to bed instead of a
diaper basically because it was late and I had it upstairs and not a diaper.
Morning came and I thought I'd give it a try. I told Savannah that these
were special panties and we don't potty in them. I asked her if she'd like
to go potty in the toilet. Much to my complete surprise, she said yes. She
had previously been against even trying. She wanted her diapers and nothing
else.
I was convinced that she'd happily wear diapers through her teen years if I
let her. lol
After my attempt of training her in a week back at the end of June, I
haven't pushed at all because she clearly wanted nothing to do with it.
Over the past few weeks she has not worn a diaper at all. I put her in
panties at home and pull ups when we are out and most of the time at night.
In the beginning Savannah was really into going potty. She had lots of
accidents, but she was trying.
She has gotten better and yesterday was actually our 2nd potty free accident
day in a row.
Poop is another story. She'll go in the toilet if I'm lucky enough to get
her there at the right time. Otherwise she'll go in her panties or pull up.
My concerns are that Savannah is still not telling me when she has to go
potty. I'm still setting an alarm and telling her it's time to go. I thought
by now that would change a bit.
She has told me that she has to go potty after she goes, but that's it.
My other concern is that Savannah is now starting to tell me that she
doesn't want to go potty. She fights that it's time to go. I never wanted it
to be a fight for us, but she has been making progress. I gave her diapers
away because I made the decision that she wasn't going back into them after
the 2 week without them mark.
What do I do? I like the child lead approach, but I also have a strong
willed stubborn daughter.
I've talked to my cousin who's son has a similar personality to Savannah's.
She did the approach that she's the mom and in charge and it's time to go.
She used punishments when he had accidents right after her asking him if he
needed to go.
Another parent I talked to made her son clean his poopy underwear one day
because it had been months of him going potty in toilet but refusing to
poop. That was the last time he pooped in his underwear.
I use a reward system for Savannah. She gets a coin every time she goes in
the toilet. I attempted to tell her that if she stayed clean all day, she
could buy a lollypop, her choice, with her money.  I've thought about taking
a coin away every time she has an accident.
Honestly I don't really know what to do at this point. I know everyone here
takes a different approach and I guess that is what I'm looking for. I want
to hear how everyone handled the horrible task of potty training because I'm
not really sure where to do from here.
Pipi
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