[blparent] Need advice with preschoolers behavior

[Tammy]

Hi,

First of all, you might have the school keep track of when he hits the other 
kids, and see if there's a pattern.  He might be hitting when he doesn't 
like what another child is doing or if he can't find the words to say 
something he feels is very important.  Or he might just be doing it for 
attention, either way a document might be helpful in establishing a pattern 
if there is one.  My son was a biter in preschool, and we figured out, with 
the teacher's help, that  most of the incidents were on days when he had to 
go to his dad's house.  he eventually told us that he didn't want to go and 
he was mad because we were making him.  the second thing is finding some 
form of discipline that works to discourage the behaviour.  I say it that 
way because while a timeout might work really well for disciplining one 
child, it might not work well for another.  so you'll have to find out what 
works best and let the school know that's what they're to do when he hits.
Finally, if that doesn't work, maybe telling himn that hitting hurts and 
that if he doesn't find another way to express himself he won't be able to 
go to school anymore.  Remember that this is probably just a passing phase, 
and that your son will grow out of it sooner rather than later.

hth

Tammy

-----Original Message----- From: Grace Pires
Sent: Wednesday, September 28, 2011 4:56 PM
To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: [blparent] Need advice with preschoolers behavior

Hello Everyone:

My son is 4.  He started preK early this month.  He has been having some
issues at school interacting with other kids. He has been hitting.  We have
been talking with him about it and I have taken away privileges when he
hits, but the behavior continues.  He had a good week last week, but
regressed this week. I have a meeting at school tomorrow to discuss it. I am
not sure how to get him to understand why he should not hit. This is his
first experience with school.  He was at home with my parents until the
middle of June. He went to school 2 days a week for the summer in order to
get use to it. He says that he likes school and wants to go.

Any thoughts? How do I get 4-year old to understand that hitting is not
exceptable? Sometimes when we tell him not to hit he asks why?

Thanks.

Grace


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