[blparent] passing the baby

Wed Apr 4 18:45:02 UTC 2012

I didn't mean to attack.
My point is that as the nanny, you do what I tell you because I pay you.  That's how it works.
As the nanny, you can also say no to childcare or to parts of childcare, no I won't give Johnny a bath ona regular basis, no I won't take care of him when he's sick, no I won't stay late because today has been hard.
You provide some excellent advice on this list. You probably provide excellent childcare.
But, you are not the mom.  It's an entirely different frame of reference, one which most childcare workers simply do not understand ona fundamental level.

If I was taking care of a kid that wasn't mine, especially a baby, I'd do as you do for the reasons you do. As a mom, I can hand that baby to whoever I want. That's my right as mom. It isn't yours as nanny.
I assume Jan was fine with handing the baby off. If she wasn't, well then she needs to remember to channel her inner Nancy Reagan.

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Brandy W
Sent: Wednesday, April 04, 2012 2:30 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] passing the baby

I provide child care in my home. I also took care of my niece very
frequently for the first 7 years of her life. I'm speaking of any large crud
in a larger space where there are more people than one is comfortable with.
I don't think in this thread whether I get to go home or not has anything to
do with what we are talking about. We are talking about whether or not we
let others hold our children. So I don't play pass the baby I keep the child
I'm with with me, and prefer to where them so others are less likely to ask
for them. If I do let someone it is someone I know well, and they know they
shouldn't hand the child to anyone else. I have cared for babies at
convention, many other conventions, places where I've done toy booths, and
in everyday life. It is just my way of doing things. I don't think attacking
me stating that I'm just a nanny was relevant or necessary.

Bran

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-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)
Sent: Wednesday, April 04, 2012 1:44 PM
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        Aren't you a nanny?
Not that what you have to say isn't important, it's s just different.
Plus, you can go home at the end of the day. That makes a huge amount of
difference.

Lastly, are you speaking of random strangers and the parents are thinking of
people they know? That too makes a difference.

-----Original Message-----
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Sent: Wednesday, April 04, 2012 10:03 AM
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When I have a baby with me I do not play pass the baby for many many
reasons. One is the main reason mentioned here where you don't know where
the child is. Second is people then think they have control of the baby and
will proceed to think it needs to eat or be changed or things like that when
they usually just want me. Last is germs. Who knows who's hand these people
have shaken, and who is sick with what. Babies don't need to be exposed to
that many germs. If aa good friend is sitting by me I may allow that person
to hold the child, but will ask them to use some hand sanitizer. I've found
that if I where the baby in a front or back carrier than people ask less.

Bran

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-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Veronica Smith
Sent: Tuesday, April 03, 2012 6:33 PM
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I really didn't like strangers holding my baby, but when we went to a family
thing, everyone wanted to hold Gab and passed around she went.  But they
were family members, if the room was full of strangers, I probably would of
said, not right now.

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of jan wright
Sent: Monday, April 02, 2012 9:48 PM
To: blparent
Subject: [blparent] passing the baby

Hi all,
I had a question and wondered if you could help.

My 23yo daughter just married on 4/1 .
We were elated and like the man she married.
My husband and I took our 4mo baby boy.
Everyone wanted to hole him.
the problem was that someone would come and talk to us and  the holder would
pass the baby to someone else, then to someone else and I did not know
"where" the baby was or "who "  had him. This is annoying for me. I would
have to continuously ask sighted people around me: "Who has the baby,"
"Where is the baby?"
 Before, when I had my little ones, I would just make them off limits to
others because:
when they were babies, we did not go out much and when we did, I wanted to
know where they were, etc. when people asked to hold my little ones, I would
just decline because it just seemed too hectic and chaotic. But, does anyone
have any suggestions to make it easier without just saying "no?"

Thanks.

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