[blparent] info on a situation from the single parents, the rest of you way in to.

[Marsha Drenth]

Kate,

This is just my thoughts on the matter, you do with it what you see fit. The
next time you see her, are nice, don't be rude. Let her talk all she wants,
but what you share with her is completely up to you. I think her criticisms
towards your parenting are because she is insecure with herself and her
situation. She probably just wants someone to listen to her, but of course
the bus is not the place or the time. If you can suggest that she seek
professional help, because you can't give that to her. Not because you don't
want to, but because I am not sure about this, but I don't think you have a
degree in psychology or counseling.  

Good Luck,
Marsha 


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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
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Sent: Thursday, April 05, 2012 8:42 PM
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Subject: [blparent] info on a situation from the single parents, the rest of
you way in to.

OK, I had one of those days where all was well till comming home on the bus.

Ash walks to the library to get help with reading and writing diffaculties.
So this women I know got on the bus behind me and starting complaning about
how tired she is being a single parent.  Now I understand being a single
parent myself but she said something that sort of pushed my buttens and it
was one of those things that I did my best at staying calm but did say
something and am hoping I didn't come across bitchy.

The woman went on about how she was now living with her parents, thats fine,
and because I was playing on my I-phone, she was asking how much my plan was
and went in to telling me all about how she wanted to save money to get a
place of her own and didn't want an expensive phone.

Then she made the comment. "I'm not like you, I don't get money from my
kid's Dad to help me."  Now, I took care of my kid's dad for two years
before having to place him in a home and now make shore his disability pays
for it.  I get a bit of Disability under him for the two girls and it covers
daycare for the baby and a few light bills.  And I know that because she is
saving money to move her parents have alowed her to stay rent free even
though she works.  So my reply at first was "well, I have rent and child
care and other bills that are more then what I get from their Dad.  And, I
don't have people who can help that often."  I paused for a moment and
continued, "I hope your able to get your own place soon.".  So of corce Ash
calls me to let me know she's home.  And this woman heard part of the call
and started in how it wasn't good to let kids walk around.  This anoyed me
so I replied, "Well, she has to go some where after school and there is no
one to drive her.  So she walks it won't kill her."  She starting asking if
Ash had a bike and I egnored the quetion and said my stop was comming up so
I couldn't talk to her.  She shut up but I know I'll run into her again.

Now first off, I am not close to this woman and every time I run in to her
she tells me her life story.  I thought about just sayihng "Look, I realy
don't want to hear all about your life, I'm listning for my stop."  Its just
weard and would love to hear how to get away from this woman who wants to
tell me how crappy her X Husband is even though I could care less.  Its not
like we're friends, and in a way, she's starting to creep me out.

What are your thoughts.

Kate
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