[blparent] info on a situation from the single parents, the rest of you way in to.

Fri Apr 6 06:15:40 UTC 2012

Well, what I used to do on the bus when I got someone who wanted to tell me 
their life story was to put on a pair of headphones but not play anything 
into them so I could hear my stop coming.  That way the nut job thought I 
couldn't hear and gave up.

Jo Elizabeth

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, 
compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of 
the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been all of 
these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist

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From: "Marsha Drenth" <marsha.drenth at gmail.com>
Sent: Thursday, April 05, 2012 7:23 PM
To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] info on a situation from the single parents,the rest 
of you way in to.

> Kate,
>
> This is just my thoughts on the matter, you do with it what you see fit. 
> The
> next time you see her, are nice, don't be rude. Let her talk all she 
> wants,
> but what you share with her is completely up to you. I think her 
> criticisms
> towards your parenting are because she is insecure with herself and her
> situation. She probably just wants someone to listen to her, but of course
> the bus is not the place or the time. If you can suggest that she seek
> professional help, because you can't give that to her. Not because you 
> don't
> want to, but because I am not sure about this, but I don't think you have 
> a
> degree in psychology or counseling.
>
> Good Luck,
> Marsha
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Kate McEachern
> Sent: Thursday, April 05, 2012 8:42 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: [blparent] info on a situation from the single parents, the rest 
> of
> you way in to.
>
> OK, I had one of those days where all was well till comming home on the 
> bus.
>
> Ash walks to the library to get help with reading and writing 
> diffaculties.
> So this women I know got on the bus behind me and starting complaning 
> about
> how tired she is being a single parent.  Now I understand being a single
> parent myself but she said something that sort of pushed my buttens and it
> was one of those things that I did my best at staying calm but did say
> something and am hoping I didn't come across bitchy.
>
> The woman went on about how she was now living with her parents, thats 
> fine,
> and because I was playing on my I-phone, she was asking how much my plan 
> was
> and went in to telling me all about how she wanted to save money to get a
> place of her own and didn't want an expensive phone.
>
> Then she made the comment. "I'm not like you, I don't get money from my
> kid's Dad to help me."  Now, I took care of my kid's dad for two years
> before having to place him in a home and now make shore his disability 
> pays
> for it.  I get a bit of Disability under him for the two girls and it 
> covers
> daycare for the baby and a few light bills.  And I know that because she 
> is
> saving money to move her parents have alowed her to stay rent free even
> though she works.  So my reply at first was "well, I have rent and child
> care and other bills that are more then what I get from their Dad.  And, I
> don't have people who can help that often."  I paused for a moment and
> continued, "I hope your able to get your own place soon.".  So of corce 
> Ash
> calls me to let me know she's home.  And this woman heard part of the call
> and started in how it wasn't good to let kids walk around.  This anoyed me
> so I replied, "Well, she has to go some where after school and there is no
> one to drive her.  So she walks it won't kill her."  She starting asking 
> if
> Ash had a bike and I egnored the quetion and said my stop was comming up 
> so
> I couldn't talk to her.  She shut up but I know I'll run into her again.
>
> Now first off, I am not close to this woman and every time I run in to her
> she tells me her life story.  I thought about just sayihng "Look, I realy
> don't want to hear all about your life, I'm listning for my stop."  Its 
> just
> weard and would love to hear how to get away from this woman who wants to
> tell me how crappy her X Husband is even though I could care less.  Its 
> not
> like we're friends, and in a way, she's starting to creep me out.
>
> What are your thoughts.
>
> Kate
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