[blparent] info on a situation from the single parents, the rest of you way in to.

[Kate McEachern]

No I don't all I can do is see the wsigns of some with a ishue and report it 
to casemanagers at work.  But this wasn't work it was a bus.  The situation 
use to be werce when the girls whent to the same school and now that they 
don't I don't have the ishue of Ash telling her Daughter things and her 
running to me and talking about stuff I wouldn't of told her.  But when I 
see her it is always in a place where I can't easly get away. The bus, 
store, crouded sidwalk, public events where I don't want to look like a 
bitch.  I swair this is one of those situations where your dammed if you do 
and dammed if you don't.

Kate
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Marsha Drenth" <marsha.drenth at gmail.com>
To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Thursday, April 05, 2012 9:23 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] info on a situation from the single parents,the rest 
of you way in to.


> Kate,
>
> This is just my thoughts on the matter, you do with it what you see fit. 
> The
> next time you see her, are nice, don't be rude. Let her talk all she 
> wants,
> but what you share with her is completely up to you. I think her 
> criticisms
> towards your parenting are because she is insecure with herself and her
> situation. She probably just wants someone to listen to her, but of course
> the bus is not the place or the time. If you can suggest that she seek
> professional help, because you can't give that to her. Not because you 
> don't
> want to, but because I am not sure about this, but I don't think you have 
> a
> degree in psychology or counseling.
>
> Good Luck,
> Marsha
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Kate McEachern
> Sent: Thursday, April 05, 2012 8:42 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: [blparent] info on a situation from the single parents, the rest 
> of
> you way in to.
>
> OK, I had one of those days where all was well till comming home on the 
> bus.
>
> Ash walks to the library to get help with reading and writing 
> diffaculties.
> So this women I know got on the bus behind me and starting complaning 
> about
> how tired she is being a single parent.  Now I understand being a single
> parent myself but she said something that sort of pushed my buttens and it
> was one of those things that I did my best at staying calm but did say
> something and am hoping I didn't come across bitchy.
>
> The woman went on about how she was now living with her parents, thats 
> fine,
> and because I was playing on my I-phone, she was asking how much my plan 
> was
> and went in to telling me all about how she wanted to save money to get a
> place of her own and didn't want an expensive phone.
>
> Then she made the comment. "I'm not like you, I don't get money from my
> kid's Dad to help me."  Now, I took care of my kid's dad for two years
> before having to place him in a home and now make shore his disability 
> pays
> for it.  I get a bit of Disability under him for the two girls and it 
> covers
> daycare for the baby and a few light bills.  And I know that because she 
> is
> saving money to move her parents have alowed her to stay rent free even
> though she works.  So my reply at first was "well, I have rent and child
> care and other bills that are more then what I get from their Dad.  And, I
> don't have people who can help that often."  I paused for a moment and
> continued, "I hope your able to get your own place soon.".  So of corce 
> Ash
> calls me to let me know she's home.  And this woman heard part of the call
> and started in how it wasn't good to let kids walk around.  This anoyed me
> so I replied, "Well, she has to go some where after school and there is no
> one to drive her.  So she walks it won't kill her."  She starting asking 
> if
> Ash had a bike and I egnored the quetion and said my stop was comming up 
> so
> I couldn't talk to her.  She shut up but I know I'll run into her again.
>
> Now first off, I am not close to this woman and every time I run in to her
> she tells me her life story.  I thought about just sayihng "Look, I realy
> don't want to hear all about your life, I'm listning for my stop."  Its 
> just
> weard and would love to hear how to get away from this woman who wants to
> tell me how crappy her X Husband is even though I could care less.  Its 
> not
> like we're friends, and in a way, she's starting to creep me out.
>
> What are your thoughts.
>
> Kate
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