[blparent] info on a situation from the single parents, the rest of you way in to.

Fri Apr 6 16:53:13 UTC 2012

Heaven knows I've run into plenty of those on the bus!  What I usually do
after exchanging a few pleasantries with those around me is put my head
phones on and mention how I don't get time to read leisurely or listen to my
favorite music so this is my one chance in the day.  Then I'll listen to a
book or music on low or turn my Victor Stream off completely to listen for
my stop but leave the head phones on so folks think I'm still listening.  I
haven't been able to do this since my son was born since he's still young
and needs my undivided attention, so what I'll do if I have him with me in a
carrier on my front is just start singing songs and playing games with him
which usually keeps the undesirables at bay.  Sometimes you get a strange
one who can't take even the most obvious cues and sometimes just need to be
more assertive but as friendly as possible and simply tell them that you
need to focus on your child at that time or need some quiet time to relax
from your busy day.  I try as hard as I can at first to make it so they
don't think it's about them, but that can be challenging with certain folks.

I feel your pain! GRIN

Erin

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Kate McEachern
Sent: Friday, April 06, 2012 7:54 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] info on a situation from the single parents, the
rest of you way in to.

I could do this with a cheep pair just for the bus.  Thanks for the tip.
Kate
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Gabe Vega" <theblindtech at gmail.com>
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Sent: Friday, April 06, 2012 10:32 AM
Subject: Re: [blparent] info on a situation from the single parents,the rest

of you way in to.

> if you pull on the end of the ear bud a little hard eventually the 
> internal wires will come away from each other and sound will stop coming 
> out of that ear bud. but, unfortunately you just ruined a good par of 
> stereo ear buds. :-)
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> On Apr 5, 2012, at 5:41 PM, Kate McEachern wrote:
>
>> OK, I had one of those days where all was well till comming home on the 
>> bus.
>>
>> Ash walks to the library to get help with reading and writing 
>> diffaculties.  So this women I know got on the bus behind me and starting

>> complaning about how tired she is being a single parent.  Now I 
>> understand being a single parent myself but she said something that sort 
>> of pushed my buttens and it was one of those things that I did my best at

>> staying calm but did say something and am hoping I didn't come across 
>> bitchy.
>>
>> The woman went on about how she was now living with her parents, thats 
>> fine, and because I was playing on my I-phone, she was asking how much my

>> plan was and went in to telling me all about how she wanted to save money

>> to get a place of her own and didn't want an expensive phone.
>>
>> Then she made the comment. "I'm not like you, I don't get money from my 
>> kid's Dad to help me."  Now, I took care of my kid's dad for two years 
>> before having to place him in a home and now make shore his disability 
>> pays for it.  I get a bit of Disability under him for the two girls and 
>> it covers daycare for the baby and a few light bills.  And I know that 
>> because she is saving money to move her parents have alowed her to stay 
>> rent free even though she works.  So my reply at first was "well, I have 
>> rent and child care and other bills that are more then what I get from 
>> their Dad.  And, I don't have people who can help that often."  I paused 
>> for a moment and continued, "I hope your able to get your own place 
>> soon.".  So of corce Ash calls me to let me know she's home.  And this 
>> woman heard part of the call and started in how it wasn't good to let 
>> kids walk around.  This anoyed me so I replied, "Well, she has to go some

>> where after school and there is no one to drive her.  So she walks it 
>> won't kill her."  She starting asking if Ash had a bike and I egnored the

>> quetion and said my stop was comming up so I couldn't talk to her.  She 
>> shut up but I know I'll run into her again.
>>
>> Now first off, I am not close to this woman and every time I run in to 
>> her she tells me her life story.  I thought about just sayihng "Look, I 
>> realy don't want to hear all about your life, I'm listning for my stop." 
>> Its just weard and would love to hear how to get away from this woman who

>> wants to tell me how crappy her X Husband is even though I could care 
>> less.  Its not like we're friends, and in a way, she's starting to creep 
>> me out.
>>
>> What are your thoughts.
>>
>> Kate
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