[blparent] introduction, expecting

[Tammy]

Hi,

and if you have subsequent children at that hospital you don't get a social 
worker visit.  Social workers leave a bad taste in most people's mouthes, 
but most of the time unless you look like you need help they just ask a few 
questions, and then go away.  Mind you some of the questions seem dumb but 
most of the time the social workers are just out of school and don't have 
children themselves.  They've read the chapter or so in their book about 
blindness but really have no idea how anybody with any kind of disability 
would even start to raise a child.  So just answer their questions to the 
best of your ability and don't worry about what you don't know.

Tammy

-----Original Message----- 
From: Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S
Sent: Saturday, August 11, 2012 10:28 PM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Cc: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] introduction, expecting

I would like to second this . Social services although they can call in for 
CPS, are just that they are there to see if you have the resources and or if 
they can provide resources for you to help parent your child. When they find 
that maybe you do not have enough resources and or know-how, and they will 
and can call CPS. But social services comes to see everybody, sided blind 
deaf mute everybody. They are there just as a precautionary measure. It's 
nothing against the blindness.

Gabe Vega
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(623) 565-9357

On Aug 11, 2012, at 7:16 PM, "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net> 
wrote:

> Child services was not involved in any way shape or form when Gab was born
> and when I mentioned social worker, that is  just part of the services the
> hospital offers. I believe that whether you have a baby or have any kind 
> of
> major surgery, this person comes by to see you.  Just in case.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Bernadetta Pracon
> Sent: Saturday, August 11, 2012 5:29 PM
> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Subject: Re: [blparent] introduction, expecting
>
> It's interesting that hospitals involve child services right away, before
> the baby can be released. I'm wondering if it's just because hospitals
> aren't educated about blindness and parenting, or if it has to do with the
> parents involved. I'm saying this because, though I was observed 
> extensively
> as I said in a previous email, I wasn't threatened with child services.
> Could it be that the demeanor of the blind parents dictates some of what 
> the
> hospital staff puts them through?
> I don't mean to be judgmental or criticize people I don't know, but 
> perhaps
> it would benefit some new or perspective parents to get some pointers on
> what they should and shouldn't do or say when people are challenging their
> ability to care for their child.
> Who's to say that some people really aren't capable of caring for their
> child. Can we honestly say that in each case in which parental custody was
> terminated due to a hospital's intervention, the termination was 
> unfounded?
> I'm sure there have been some cases where a parent or a set of parents
> either conveyed that they wouldn't be able to care for their child
> successfully, or in fact, were incapable of doing so. It might not
> necessarily have to do with their blindness in general, but with issues
> stemming from their blindness.
> I think it's great that people are advocating for hospitals to be more
> educated about parenting as a blind person, but maybe it's not always the
> hospital's fault. It seems that the majority of parents who say that they
> haven't had any issues with child services are the ones who exude 
> confidence
> and seem competent, while those who claim they have had issues with people
> intervening to the point where their custodial rights were terminated seem 
> a
> bit more unsure and don't know how to hold their own when it comes to 
> state
> workers and hospital staff. When I was pregnant, I felt that the 
> possibility
> of having my child taken away by social services should be on the top of 
> my
> list of concerns.
> But the more I observe, the more I understand that the majority of blind
> parents seem to say that they didn't face issues to that extent.
> I don't mean for this message to be inflamatory; it's just something I've
> been wondering about.
>
> Bernadetta
>
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