[blparent] introduction, expecting

Veronica Smith madison_tewe at spinn.net
Mon Aug 13 02:11:26 UTC 2012 

Smile!

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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Gabe Vega
Sent: Sunday, August 12, 2012 11:31 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] introduction, expecting

Oh veronica. I like the way you call 'em how you see 'em. yes indeed, it was
not blindness related. or was it? she's blind, I'm blind and we once went on
a blindness related date here in phoenix for a week end? but yeh, not blind
parent related though. :-)

On Aug 12, 2012, at 9:16 AM, "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
wrote:

> As you would say, was that blindness related? Smile! You should and 
> could ask her that privately, not here.
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] 
> On Behalf Of Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S
> Sent: Saturday, August 11, 2012 8:13 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Cc: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] introduction, expecting
> 
> Okay, fine. I just don't like when people deny facts. But will Move on. .
> Smiley face
> 
> Gabe Vega
> Sent from my iPhone
> (623) 565-9357
> 
> On Aug 11, 2012, at 6:54 PM, Marsha Drenth <marsha.drenth at gmail.com>
wrote:
> 
>> This is nor the time or place. Lets stay on topic. 
>> 
>> thank you,
>> 
>> Marsha drenthSent from my iPhone
>> 
>> On Aug 11, 2012, at 9:39 PM, Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S
> <theblindtech at gmail.com> wrote:
>> 
>>> Interesting, a simple no would have surfised. But if you are who I 
>>> think
> you are you do have three kids they live in Dallas. You used to be 
> from Dallas and then after that Baltimore. That is why you know so 
> much about Baltimore, interesting Marsha. Nice to see you on list, 
> glad to know you're doing well. I'm sure you remember me Gabe Vega 
> from Phoenix Arizona. Also known as the blind tech.
>>> 
>>> Gabe Vega
>>> Sent from my iPhone
>>> (623) 565-9357
>>> 
>>> On Aug 11, 2012, at 6:12 PM, Marsha Drenth <marsha.drenth at gmail.com>
> wrote:
>>> 
>>>> Uh, not sure what the purpose of this post was. i'm Marsha Drenth,
> atleast that is what my ID says. 
>>>> 
>>>> Marsha drenthSent from my iPhone
>>>> 
>>>> On Aug 11, 2012, at 7:47 PM, Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S
> <theblindtech at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>> 
>>>>> I'm just curious, but didn't you used to being Marsha Lindsay? 
>>>>> Thank you
>>>>> 
>>>>> Gabe Vega
>>>>> Sent from my iPhone
>>>>> (623) 565-9357
>>>>> 
>>>>> On Aug 11, 2012, at 4:22 PM, Marsha Drenth 
>>>>> <marsha.drenth at gmail.com>
> wrote:
>>>>> 
>>>>>> Bernadetta, As a soon to be social worker, that frustrates me to 
>>>>>> no end, of how rude she or he was. I wish I could say that they 
>>>>>> were all nicer, and educated about blndness, but as we all know 
>>>>>> all too well, they are not. If I have any thing to say about it, 
>>>>>> at some point social workers wil be educated on blindness and 
>>>>>> parenting. Yes i know I am aiming high, but its gotta stop some 
>>>>>> where. Ok, I won't get on to my soap box now. LOL
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> Marsha drenthSent from my iPhone
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> On Aug 11, 2012, at 5:07 PM, Bernadetta Pracon
> <bernadetta_pracon at samobile.net> wrote:
>>>>>> 
>>>>>>> Tatyana,
>>>>>>> First of all, Congratulations on your new little one. Do you 
>>>>>>> know
> what you're having?
>>>>>>> I am a relatively new mommy too. My baby boy was born almost six
> months ago, so I thought I'd share my experiences with you. Prior to 
> having a baby, I didn't really have much experience with caring for small
children.
> I became terribly nervous when I was expecting, because it was drummed 
> into my mind that taking care of an infant is hard work, and on top of 
> that I'm blind, so it must be twice as hard. I thought I'd be scared 
> to bring my little one up and down the stairs at my home for example, 
> thought I would never learn how to change him properly, or feed him 
> for that matter. I thought I'd be carrying him around in a front pack 
> forever because I'd be afraid to accidentally bump him into a wall while
walking or something.
> Fast-forward six months, and guess what, I haven't even used my front
pack.
> Not once. And I've become a pro with my little one, as has my 
> boyfriend/partner. So far, my baby has not incurred any injuries, not 
> even minor ones.
>>>>>>> I wanted to take  all of the classes offered by the hospital 
>>>>>>> that Jo
> Elizabeth mentioned, but the hospital I chose to give birth at was not 
> easy to get to on my own and I didnt' have the best transportation 
> system in place at the time. So I didn't end up taking advantage of 
> them. However, when I got there, I was confident and willing to learn 
> everything I needed to in order to safely care for my son. My partner 
> who is also blind was equally prepared to learn how to be responsible 
> for our child. When we were asked by nurses and doctors about how we 
> would provide for our child, we told them, patiently and confidently 
> that we, like any other couple with a small baby, would probably 
> require some help and that we had my family nearby if we needed them.
>>>>>>> The only person at the hospital who got under my skin was the 
>>>>>>> social
> worker assigned to us: She was like a cross examiner, and for a social 
> worker, quite ignorant. She insisted on asking idiotic questions like, 
> how would we know if the baby had a poopy diaper, and she made it 
> obvious that in her mind, two blind people shouldn't live alone with a 
> baby. We assured her that we were going to be fine, and because we 
> made a solid case for ourselves, she had no loophole in which to slip 
> in and cause trouble. It may have also been helpful that my mom, who 
> was in the hospital with us for the birth (per my request) and then to 
> visit the baby, assured the staff of the hospital that if we needed 
> her, she'd help us. That's not overstepping the lines, in my oppinion; 
> Every new grandma is eager to help with her child's new baby,. Many 
> new parents, whether blind or sighted seek their own parents assistance
with the baby for a time.
>>>>>>> I ended up having a CSection which granted me a few more days at 
>>>>>>> the
> hospital. I took advantage of that; I asked the nurses to teach me 
> about diapering, swaddling, breastfeeding, and bathing my boy. Don't 
> be nervous about asking them for help, but be sure that at the end of 
> your hospital stay, you're able to show them that you've retained at 
> least the basics of baby care. If some nurse is being snooty with you 
> and seems more willing to berate you for being a blind mom than she is 
> eager to teach you how to be one, you should feel free to request 
> assistance from someone else. It's your hospital stay; The hospital 
> should benefit you in whatever way they can, so don't be  too shy to 
> ask for help. I was fortunate to have had a great hospital staff 
> aiding my new family. The nurses and  PCA's, even the doctors were 
> supportive and seemed eager to give us a chance. But I'll tell you 
> that they did feel apprehensive, and had I not displayed my compitance 
> and my willingness to learn, they would have hesitated to allow the 
> child to come home with me. You need to be confident. You need to be 
> sharp-minded and work with the hospital staff. In most cases, they are
just working in your baby's best interest.
>>>>>>> Well, that's that. I'm sorry for the long-winded message. i'm 
>>>>>>> rambling. lol. Anyway, good luck, and if you need anything else, 
>>>>>>> feel
> free to ask the list, and since  I've been through all this recently, 
> feel free to email me off list if you need to talk and get advice, new 
> mom to a slightly  more seasoned new mom. lol Good  Luck!!
>>>>>>> Bernadetta
>>>>>>> 
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