[blparent] Involvement of Child Services (was introduction, expecting)

[Jodie and Kahlan]

Great post, Bernadetta! Chris and I have been involved with social 
workers voluntarily since before Kahlan was born. They, and our 
families, helped us learn the skills we needed to become good parents. 
Neither of us had any idea how to change a diaper before Kahlan was 
born. People at the hospital when she was born were also great at 
helping with those basic beginning skills, and telling them we were 
involved with social workers made it clear that we knew what we were doing.

Jo Elizabeth is also right about over confidence. Has anyone ever heard 
of something called silent gagging? Chris and I had never heard of it 
until the doctor mentioned it the day after Kahlan was born. We said we 
wanted to keep Kahlan in the room with us that night. They said they 
wanted to bring a sitter in when the baby was with us alone. The word 
sitter got our feathers ruffled, understandably, but once they 
explained about silent gagging and visual cues that we might miss, we accepted.

My mom said my brother turned blue when he was a baby and the nurses 
had to get him breathing again. He had experienced the silent gagging 
and she hadn't thought about it until the doctor mentioned it to us. 
Thank God, it never happened to Kahlan!

Parents need to know when to say yes they need help or no they don't, 
and in my opinion, they need to find ways to prove it when they don't 
need help. We've been seen feeding and changing Kahlan and interacting 
with her. Her happy, healthy personality proves that we're taking good 
care of her, and every social worker we've spoken with who has seen her 
knows it. I personally think voluntarily getting involved with social 
workers is a good idea, especially for first time parents, and more 
especially for first time parents like me who really didn't have the 
proper skills before the birth. It shows that you want what's best for 
your child and are willing to do whatever it takes.

-- 
Hugs from Jodie and kahlan

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