[blparent] Involvement of Child Services (was introduction, expecting)

[Angie Matney]

Hi Jodie,

Interesting. The hospital where Jacob was born encourages rooming-in.
No one ever suggested to us that we needed someone to be there when we
were alone with our baby. If they had, I might have been concerned
about what they thought we would do when we got home, as it would be
impractical for someone to be wiht us 24/7.

Did your hospital require someone to be in the room with sighted
parents when both were sleeping? After all, if both parents were
asleep, they wouldn't notice if a baby turned blue.

Best,

Angie



On 8/14/12, Jodie and Kahlan <xandir at samobile.net> wrote:
> Great post, Bernadetta! Chris and I have been involved with social
> workers voluntarily since before Kahlan was born. They, and our
> families, helped us learn the skills we needed to become good parents.
> Neither of us had any idea how to change a diaper before Kahlan was
> born. People at the hospital when she was born were also great at
> helping with those basic beginning skills, and telling them we were
> involved with social workers made it clear that we knew what we were doing.
>
> Jo Elizabeth is also right about over confidence. Has anyone ever heard
> of something called silent gagging? Chris and I had never heard of it
> until the doctor mentioned it the day after Kahlan was born. We said we
> wanted to keep Kahlan in the room with us that night. They said they
> wanted to bring a sitter in when the baby was with us alone. The word
> sitter got our feathers ruffled, understandably, but once they
> explained about silent gagging and visual cues that we might miss, we
> accepted.
>
> My mom said my brother turned blue when he was a baby and the nurses
> had to get him breathing again. He had experienced the silent gagging
> and she hadn't thought about it until the doctor mentioned it to us.
> Thank God, it never happened to Kahlan!
>
> Parents need to know when to say yes they need help or no they don't,
> and in my opinion, they need to find ways to prove it when they don't
> need help. We've been seen feeding and changing Kahlan and interacting
> with her. Her happy, healthy personality proves that we're taking good
> care of her, and every social worker we've spoken with who has seen her
> knows it. I personally think voluntarily getting involved with social
> workers is a good idea, especially for first time parents, and more
> especially for first time parents like me who really didn't have the
> proper skills before the birth. It shows that you want what's best for
> your child and are willing to do whatever it takes.
>
> --
> Hugs from Jodie and kahlan
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