[blparent] Blending Families, any advice?

[Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)]

excellent advice especially the built-in babysitter.
That will not end well if you go that route.

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Veronica Smith
Sent: Tuesday, August 28, 2012 10:54 PM
To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] Blending Families, any advice?

Gabe, congratulations, it is a great thing when 2 people in life find each
other and begin a new life!  Hopefully you and your children and she and
hers will learn tolerance with one another, sharing their dad, sharing their
mom, and the 2 of you making time for everyone.  One bit of advice, never
assume your oldest wants to be the babysitter, she just might want to, but
that should be her choice.
Make sure what ever belongs to each child, stays their own possessions,
don't make them share their stuff.
Compromise, always have family dinnrs and listen to what your children say,
all of them!
V

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Gabe Vega
Sent: Tuesday, August 28, 2012 1:07 AM
To: nfb blind parent blindparent
Subject: [blparent] Blending Families, any advice?

Good Morning All:

For a wile Katie and I would at times write back and forth, resulting in us
agreeing or at times not agreeing by a long shot.  At one point Katie and I
disagreed so badly I completely  wrote her offas a winy self-entitled blindy
and wanted nothing to do with that sort of person both on or off this list.
but oh how that was going to change. :-)

There was a point on this list where I explained that I was a mac computer
trainer/consultant and Katie wrote me off list for a little bit of help. so
I invited her to call me and I would see if I could answer any of her
questions.

We began to talk through e-mail and then moved on to the phone.  Recently we
met in person and things went so well we are now engaged.

If it hadn't been for this list I would of never met such an amazing woman.
I will be forever thankful to this list for giving me a blind professional
focused woman employed in the blindness rehabilitation field, who is caring,
loving to me, and the strong independent woman I want by my side.  This
would not of happened with out my joining this list and now I am eager for
tips on how Katie and I can blend our families.

You see, Katie's two children  will be relocating to be with me and my 3
children.  My oldest daughter, age 11 is still dealing with the abandonment
of her mother (going on about 3 years now) since about September 2009 and
though is open to having a relationship with Katie, I am interested in what
I should expect my child to go through as her and Katie learn about each
other and begin to interact as a child and step parent.  I am confident
things will be Ok between my Daughter and Katie's older child Ashly, though
some what to expect when children get use to being step siblings would be
helpful.

I want to thank the NFB blind parents list for opening a door for a single
Blind Father to meat such an amazing Single Blind Mother.  This would of
never happened if Katie and I never joined this list,.

Again, Thank you.
Gabe Vega  and Katie McEachern




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