[blparent] Coloring with your sighted children

Tue Jan 10 20:37:18 UTC 2012

It's a great idea to spread out the expenses as best you can ahead of time. 
All states are different, but in Colorado, the lifetime clothing allowance, 
apart from the monthly assistance stipend, is $80.  Even shopping carefully, 
you can go through $80 in clothing in no time at all.  Miranda, you might 
consider checking with your case worker, also, because there's usually a 
donation closet that the county maintains for foster kids.  I've sent a lot 
of clothes and toys that Sarah has outgrown to the donation closet in my 
county, now that I know about it, but it tends not to be well publicized.

Jo Elizabeth

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, 
compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of 
the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been all of 
these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist

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From: "Miranda B." <knownoflove at gmail.com>
Sent: Tuesday, January 10, 2012 1:26 PM
To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] Coloring with your sighted children

> Hi Jennifer,
> Thank you for putting this so eloquently.
> Transportation isn't much of an issue, but yes I do indeed want to keep 
> the
> shopping list short. Also, we do not get financial assistance until 30 
> days
> after a child is placed in our home. So, I am trying to plan for and
> anticipate the smaller details so they can be taken care of ahead of time.
> Again, thank you for your well-said message!
>
> In Christ, Miranda
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Jennifer Jackson
> Sent: Wednesday, January 11, 2012 2:11 AM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Coloring with your sighted children
>
> Rebecca,
>
> I think you are missing several things here. I generally agree with your 
> no
> nonsense attitude of conquering the world, but there are several things I
> can think of that may be impacting how Miranda is handling this. I am sure
> she will relax some after she has some experience, just like everyone does
> after they deal with child number one no matter how we get that child. I 
> do
> not think that being prepared with basic toiletry items ahead of time is
> going to far. I try to provide those basic courtesies for any house guest.
>
> More practically on the issue of Miranda's plan to pre-purchase these
> supplies, you often get very little notice that a child is coming into 
> your
> foster home. These children are often upset, and yes can be very damaged
> both physically and emotionally. Having things ready for them can help a
> child feel wanted. Also, transportation may be an issue. I have no idea 
> how
> far the nearest store is to Miranda, but I do know that she will want to
> keep the shopping list short when she knows a child is coming. She may 
> also
> want to be planning out the expense and be able to take advantage of sale
> prices. Sometimes foster kids are delivered with only the clothes on their
> backs and foster parents have to get clothing and diapers immedietly. Most
> programs have arrangements for those expenses, but they do not always kick
> in immedietly and I am sure Miranda will not want to wait a few days for
> those kind of supplies.
>
> Rebecca, as I said before, I like your conquer the world attitude and
> appreciate that you want people to just go for it instead of over 
> analyzing
> every situation. I think you may want to consider how your messages are
> coming across to the recipients though. Twice now in just this week you 
> have
> turned threads in directions that made two people feel very defensive and
> apparently under attack. I think that what we sometimes mean in a
> conversational tone can be perceived by others as confrontational when 
> tone
> of voice and body language are both removed as they are in email. I hope
> that you do not feel that I am attacking you in turn now. I decided to 
> write
> this on the list to remind all of us to work towards supporting each other
> and accepting that we do not have to all parent the same way for us to all
> be good parents.
>
>
> Jennifer
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)
> Sent: Tuesday, January 10, 2012 11:06 AM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Coloring with your sighted children
>
> You bring them with you, show them the toothpaste and ask what they'd 
> like.
> No child knows what toothpaste they like if they haven't experienced it 
> and
> their preferences change as interests change, though that you can work
> around a bit.
> Will these kids be so damaged they can't go out to the grocery store? I'm
> being serious, food shopping is what we do and is something your kids will
> have to do because it's a skill they will need, and because yours sound 
> too
> little to be left alone.
> You can be prepared only so much, though I'd question the definition of
> preparedness if you are stocking up on an item that is very easily
> obtainable.
> What am I missing?
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Miranda B.
> Sent: Tuesday, January 10, 2012 11:38 AM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Coloring with your sighted children
>
> Hi,
> I'm not suggesting the child can't "own" this process. However, I was just
> looking for ways to actively participate with the child.
> Thanks, and have a great week!
>
> In Christ, Miranda
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)
> Sent: Tuesday, January 10, 2012 9:46 AM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Coloring with your sighted children
>
> Why not let the child "own" this process?
> They can tell you what they are drawing and you can learn a lot about 
> what's
> going on in their head. Just sit with them and draw if you want or just 
> sit
> and be present.
> You can also let them color when you do other things. When they make
> something they want to show you, they will.
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Miranda B.
> Sent: Sunday, January 08, 2012 5:32 PM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: [blparent] Coloring with your sighted children
>
> Hi,
>
> I'm wondering if anyone knows of any place I can get crayons that are
> pre-marked in Braille? If not, what do you do to be able to identify 
> crayon
> colors when coloring with your sighted child? I also know the Independence
> Market used to have tactile coloring books. Are these still available? Are
> there any other ideas for tactile pictures to use with your child? My
> husband and I are both Blind, and finding someone sighted to put tactile
> markings on pictures is not a feseable option.
>
> Thanks, and have a great week!
>
>
>
> In Christ, Miranda
>
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