[blparent] Coloring with your sighted children

Wed Jan 11 03:01:23 UTC 2012

A friend of mine used to be a foster parent and she indeed would just get
kids with a moments notice and sometimes they would come in nothing more
than a t-shirt and a diaper.  So what she started doing, was keeping a trunk
full of various sizes of clothes.  Just in case.  It is better to have
something to give them then to say, wait I need to go shop for something.  V

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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Jennifer Jackson
Sent: Wednesday, January 11, 2012 12:11 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] Coloring with your sighted children

Rebecca,

I think you are missing several things here. I generally agree with your no
nonsense attitude of conquering the world, but there are several things I
can think of that may be impacting how Miranda is handling this. I am sure
she will relax some after she has some experience, just like everyone does
after they deal with child number one no matter how we get that child. I do
not think that being prepared with basic toiletry items ahead of time is
going to far. I try to provide those basic courtesies for any house guest.

More practically on the issue of Miranda's plan to pre-purchase these
supplies, you often get very little notice that a child is coming into your
foster home. These children are often upset, and yes can be very damaged
both physically and emotionally. Having things ready for them can help a
child feel wanted. Also, transportation may be an issue. I have no idea how
far the nearest store is to Miranda, but I do know that she will want to
keep the shopping list short when she knows a child is coming. She may also
want to be planning out the expense and be able to take advantage of sale
prices. Sometimes foster kids are delivered with only the clothes on their
backs and foster parents have to get clothing and diapers immedietly. Most
programs have arrangements for those expenses, but they do not always kick
in immedietly and I am sure Miranda will not want to wait a few days for
those kind of supplies.

Rebecca, as I said before, I like your conquer the world attitude and
appreciate that you want people to just go for it instead of over analyzing
every situation. I think you may want to consider how your messages are
coming across to the recipients though. Twice now in just this week you have
turned threads in directions that made two people feel very defensive and
apparently under attack. I think that what we sometimes mean in a
conversational tone can be perceived by others as confrontational when tone
of voice and body language are both removed as they are in email. I hope
that you do not feel that I am attacking you in turn now. I decided to write
this on the list to remind all of us to work towards supporting each other
and accepting that we do not have to all parent the same way for us to all
be good parents.

Jennifer

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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)
Sent: Tuesday, January 10, 2012 11:06 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] Coloring with your sighted children

You bring them with you, show them the toothpaste and ask what they'd like.
No child knows what toothpaste they like if they haven't experienced it and
their preferences change as interests change, though that you can work
around a bit.
Will these kids be so damaged they can't go out to the grocery store? I'm
being serious, food shopping is what we do and is something your kids will
have to do because it's a skill they will need, and because yours sound too
little to be left alone.
You can be prepared only so much, though I'd question the definition of
preparedness if you are stocking up on an item that is very easily
obtainable.
What am I missing?

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Miranda B.
Sent: Tuesday, January 10, 2012 11:38 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] Coloring with your sighted children

Hi,
I'm not suggesting the child can't "own" this process. However, I was just
looking for ways to actively participate with the child.
Thanks, and have a great week!

In Christ, Miranda

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)
Sent: Tuesday, January 10, 2012 9:46 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] Coloring with your sighted children

Why not let the child "own" this process?
They can tell you what they are drawing and you can learn a lot about what's
going on in their head. Just sit with them and draw if you want or just sit
and be present.
You can also let them color when you do other things. When they make
something they want to show you, they will.

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Miranda B.
Sent: Sunday, January 08, 2012 5:32 PM
To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: [blparent] Coloring with your sighted children

Hi,

I'm wondering if anyone knows of any place I can get crayons that are
pre-marked in Braille? If not, what do you do to be able to identify crayon
colors when coloring with your sighted child? I also know the Independence
Market used to have tactile coloring books. Are these still available? Are
there any other ideas for tactile pictures to use with your child? My
husband and I are both Blind, and finding someone sighted to put tactile
markings on pictures is not a feseable option.

Thanks, and have a great week!

In Christ, Miranda

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