[blparent] behavior problem solving

Fri Jan 13 06:29:23 UTC 2012

    Yes. Thank you. That is exactly what I was thinking. Thanks for the 
tips.

Whenever he gets in trouble at school, I ask him what happened and he would 
say, "I don't know." This has been frustrating for me because however I ask, 
he still gives me the "I don't know" story.

-----Original Message----- 
From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
Sent: Friday, January 13, 2012 12:14 AM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] behavior problem solving

If you have a way to make sure the instructions are followed, I think you've
got an awesome idea there.  I proofread a lot of textbooks for young
readers, and those are the kinds of things they're asked to do, so you would
have consistency between home and school.

A scavenger hunt is an excellent idea, especially if you can incorporate
elements of following instructions into the clues.  Like you might say, go
to the next place where a clue is, but before you can have it, you have to
say your ABC's, or turn around in a circle three times, or whatever.

I would also look for patterns of when your son isn't following
instructions.  Is it when he's distracted by the TV or a toy?  Is it when
he's getting tired or hungry or frustrated?  Those clues may help you figure
out what steps to take that could put him in a better place to listen and
obey.

The other thing is, as hard as it can be, try to always present a united
front with the teacher, unless he or she is doing something completely off
the wall.  Sarah came home from preschool and told me the other day she had
to sit by herself because she was rude.  I asked what happened, and she said
one of the kids kept putting his hands over the book she was reading so she
couldn't see it.  She snatched the book from him and told him to go away.
The teacher saw what she did, but not what provoked it, and so she was the
one who got in trouble.  I could have made a big deal about it with the
teacher, but I figured it's a life lesson learned: the last one to act is
the one who gets caught.  I told her that it wasn't fair, but sometimes
things went that way, and that next time she could go to the teacher and ask
for help instead of snatching the book away from the kid and maybe getting
in trouble again.  I wanted to make sure she knew she couldn't play me
against the teacher.

Two bits worth of free advice,
Jo Elizabeth

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young,
compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of
the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been all of
these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist

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From: "Tammy" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
Sent: Thursday, January 12, 2012 10:54 PM
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] behavior problem solving

> Hi,
>
> the only problem I see with that is how are you going to know if he does 
> what you're asking of him?  If you tell him to draw something, how will 
> you know if he's done it, or maybe he's drawn something else?  Same goes 
> for writing, how will you know what he's writing?
>
> Just some thoughts
>
> Tammy
>
> -----Original Message----- 
> From: Nikki
> Sent: Friday, January 13, 2012 12:30 AM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] behavior problem solving
>
>    Sounds feasable. I thought of making him do something like this when he
> gets home from school. He rarely has homework. So...
>
> Follow these instructions.
>
> Write your name on the top line.
> Draw a green triangle.
> Put the number 3 inside the triangle.
> Draw a red circle.
> Draw a blue square underneath the triangle.
> Draw a yellow diamond above the circle.
> Color in the square.
> Put  2 orange dots next to the diamond.
> Color in half of the circle.
> Write “I will do what I am told to do right away,”  5 times.
> Write the numbers 1 to 20.
> Count out 100 Cheerios.
> Eat 27 of them, put 56 of them back, how many do you have?
> Write that number on the second line.
> On the forth line, write your favorite color.
> What is 4 times 3? Put that number on the third line.
> Measure how long a spoon is using pennies, using quarters, using the 
> ruler.
> I would elaborate on this one by having him count the cents and adding the
> amounts.
> What is your favorite thing to do in the winter? Write a sentence about 
> it.
> (he dislikes writing)
> Hop on one foot 5 times.
> Do 10 jumping jacks.
> Find something in the house that rhymes with door. Write it down.
>
> Just something to keep him busy and to learn to follow directions, do what
> he's told.
> I'm coming up with a bunch of things, like I'll create a scavenger hunt 
> for
> him to do.
> I'm not worried about his capability because he's smart.
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> -----Original Message----- 
> From: Veronica Smith
> Sent: Thursday, January 12, 2012 5:51 PM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] behavior problem solving
>
> He is 6, he can do just about anything.  Emptying the trash cans
> Picking and stacking old papers, making neat piles
> Putting silverware away, excluding sharp knives.
> Making or straightening covers on a bed.
> My neighbor's kids always have had chores, her son, is now 8 and he has
> always done the sweeping of the bathrooms and dusts the furnature.
> Gab has always had to keep the counter in the front bathroom clean and 
> wiped
> off.
> V
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Nikki
> Sent: Thursday, January 12, 2012 3:27 PM
> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Subject: [blparent] behavior problem solving
>
> Hi all. I have run into an issue with my son’s behavior in school. He came
> home with a note from the principal today saying that he had a hard time
> following directions, doing what he was told to do, and disrupting other
> kids in the class from learning.
>
>
>
>
>
> The teacher took him aside and explained to him that his behavior is
> disrespectful.
>
>
>
> Before I go any further, my son is 6 so he’s in first grade.
>
>
>
> But come tomorrow, after lunch, he has to go to the detention hall. I do 
> not
> know what that is, but he deserves the punishment whether he likes it or
> not.
>
>
>
> My question for you is how do I rectify the behavior here at home. He has 
> a
> hard time listening to what he’s told to do, then doing it.
>
>
>
> I had the idea of making a list of chores for my son to do here and making
> it into a chart or something he can help make. I just want some ideas as 
> to
> what I could have him do.
>
> Thanks for your help.
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