[blparent] behavior problem solving

Tue Jan 17 16:43:01 UTC 2012

Niki,
The problem as I see it is that you're setting things up so Grandpa is "the decider"
Look at what you've written "I'll sit with him and then have Papa do the final check".
Think about what that says to all involved.  Then think about why some of these dynamics are at play in your family.

If you want him to follow directions, and you want to be regarded as competent, make them directions you can verify on your own.
You can have him set the table, make beds, fold laundry, build something with legos, all kinds of stuff.
With the directions you're proposing, you are setting yourself up as the parent who can't verify that the instructions have been done properly. Why would you do that?

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Nikki
Sent: Friday, January 13, 2012 1:19 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] behavior problem solving

    He'll have a consequence if he doesn't follow through. Besides, I will
be in the room and when he's done, I'll ask him to read what he wrote. He'll
have to get papa's check to see if he did things right. But I don't have any
doubt that he will do it if I'm there engaging, encouraging.

-----Original Message-----
From: Tammy
Sent: Thursday, January 12, 2012 11:54 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] behavior problem solving

Hi,

the only problem I see with that is how are you going to know if he does
what you're asking of him?  If you tell him to draw something, how will you
know if he's done it, or maybe he's drawn something else?  Same goes for
writing, how will you know what he's writing?

Just some thoughts

Tammy

-----Original Message-----
From: Nikki
Sent: Friday, January 13, 2012 12:30 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] behavior problem solving

    Sounds feasable. I thought of making him do something like this when he
gets home from school. He rarely has homework. So...

Follow these instructions.

Write your name on the top line.
Draw a green triangle.
Put the number 3 inside the triangle.
Draw a red circle.
Draw a blue square underneath the triangle.
Draw a yellow diamond above the circle.
Color in the square.
Put  2 orange dots next to the diamond.
Color in half of the circle.
Write “I will do what I am told to do right away,”  5 times.
Write the numbers 1 to 20.
Count out 100 Cheerios.
Eat 27 of them, put 56 of them back, how many do you have?
Write that number on the second line.
On the forth line, write your favorite color.
What is 4 times 3? Put that number on the third line.
Measure how long a spoon is using pennies, using quarters, using the ruler.
I would elaborate on this one by having him count the cents and adding the
amounts.
What is your favorite thing to do in the winter? Write a sentence about it.
(he dislikes writing)
Hop on one foot 5 times.
Do 10 jumping jacks.
Find something in the house that rhymes with door. Write it down.

Just something to keep him busy and to learn to follow directions, do what
he's told.
I'm coming up with a bunch of things, like I'll create a scavenger hunt for
him to do.
I'm not worried about his capability because he's smart.

-----Original Message-----
From: Veronica Smith
Sent: Thursday, January 12, 2012 5:51 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] behavior problem solving

He is 6, he can do just about anything.  Emptying the trash cans
Picking and stacking old papers, making neat piles
Putting silverware away, excluding sharp knives.
Making or straightening covers on a bed.
My neighbor's kids always have had chores, her son, is now 8 and he has
always done the sweeping of the bathrooms and dusts the furnature.
Gab has always had to keep the counter in the front bathroom clean and wiped
off.
V

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Nikki
Sent: Thursday, January 12, 2012 3:27 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: [blparent] behavior problem solving

Hi all. I have run into an issue with my son’s behavior in school. He came
home with a note from the principal today saying that he had a hard time
following directions, doing what he was told to do, and disrupting other
kids in the class from learning.

The teacher took him aside and explained to him that his behavior is
disrespectful.

Before I go any further, my son is 6 so he’s in first grade.

But come tomorrow, after lunch, he has to go to the detention hall. I do not
know what that is, but he deserves the punishment whether he likes it or
not.

My question for you is how do I rectify the behavior here at home. He has a
hard time listening to what he’s told to do, then doing it.

I had the idea of making a list of chores for my son to do here and making
it into a chart or something he can help make. I just want some ideas as to
what I could have him do.

Thanks for your help.
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