[blparent] supportive messages

[Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)]

Sharon,
You say Brenden has had a hard life, or maybe he just processes it harder then his brother.
Since this is the second time he's gotten involved with a woman who has moved away, you may want to suggest that he talk to a councelor or somebody. I can't help thinking he's choosing these women intentionally or not for some reason which I can't begin to guess at.
It might be worthwhile for him to explore why he won't leave Chiciago.  Unless he's got kids that are say near the end of high school, I don't understand him being so wedded to a city.

Something that you may want to tell him is to not love something that can't love you back. Cities are one such example.  You may love them, but they don't love you.

Also, convey to Brenden that he can move wherver he wants.  He isn't asking to spend the weekend with her parents, he is free to move to Texas if he'd like to do so.  Just approaching it as if you aren't asking Dad for the family car may serve him well in his future relationships. He has as much right to what he wants as the girls do.

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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of sharon howerton
Sent: Sunday, July 22, 2012 7:22 AM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: [blparent] supportive messages

Jo Elizabeth, glad you and yours are OK but sad to think about the families and don't we wish we could protect our children. Since mine are grown and no one here would know them, I can say this. My youngest son announced to his brother and me yesterday that he had proposed to his girl friend Denise; Kevin is 26 and Denise soon will be. She is a wonderful girl. My older son had come home briefly, he has been spending a lot of time with his girl friend (he is 29-she is much older). When he came out of the shower as he was preparing to go to work, he was crying and said his girl friend was moving to Texas in September. I asked if he was going to go with her; he said no. I don't know if she asked him, but if anyone knows Brendan well, we know that after he got out of the Navy and came back, he said he would never leave Chicago again. This is the second time Brendan has been involved with someone who moved hundreds of miles away. How many times I have prayed and wished I could go back so many years and make Brendan's life better, but I can't. Kevin is a stronger young man emotionally, but Brendan has always been more sensitive and had a rough time growing up and even as an adult, in my opinion. We never stop being Mom and never stop wanting to protect and care for our children, I think. Can you believe all this came out in the space of about 15 minutes! How many times I have just had to put them in God's hands and simply just be there for them.
Sharon
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