[blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!

Fri Jun 8 18:49:14 UTC 2012

Um, okay?

Gabe Vega 
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On Jun 8, 2012, at 11:07 AM, "Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at tasc.com> wrote:

>        Gabe, why do you mention the price of your suit? What are you trying to prove. You would have done better had you say "AndI was dressed nicely" without mentioning the price. That was tasteless.
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> I just went through this at my son's graduation. My 11 year old daughter took some scissors and cut holes on the knees of her pants. to look like the other little girls and people she sees that wear the new style of pants these days. they are holes with a shredded look to them.
> 
> Well anyways, I wore a suit and Tie about a $500.00 dollar get up to my son's once in a life time Kindar Garden graduation and I was walking around with my daughter and these holy pants. and when I found out a world of embarrassment went over me and I was shocked and didn't know what to do. so I know how this feels, kids some times do the weirdest things.
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> On Jun 6, 2012, at 10:35 AM, Jennifer Jackson wrote:
> 
>> Jo Elizabeth,
>> 
>> I think you have touched on a point here that is particular to being a blind
>> parent. When our children go out badly dressed people assume that it is
>> because those poor pitiful children have blind parents who can not provide
>> for them. Yes, we can all say that we should not care what other people
>> think, but that is nonsense. We, just like everyone else, are part of the
>> social contract and there are consequences to ignoring the standards of that
>> contract. It really is a big deal if the people in our child's school think
>> he is being neglected. Often these are consequences that a child is not
>> mature enough to understand or respond too. That being said, my pride is an
>> issue here too.
>> 
>> It may comfort you to know Jo Elizabeth that that torn clothing look seems
>> to be a thing. I recently had to explain to my son that the shirt he has
>> with the arms torn out is acceptable, just barely, to meet the you must
>> where clothes at home standard, but it is not ok to wear out of our yard. Of
>> course the fact that he sees other adults at the store dressed in the same
>> kind of shirt with pajama pants on, or their underwear showing, does not
>> help support my point. The no hat or coat fashion requirement is also
>> baffling to me. It is apparently more important to look right than it is to
>> not be cold, which just supports my earlier point about logical
>> consequences. :)
>> 
>> 
>> Jennifer
>> 
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>> Sent: Wednesday, June 06, 2012 1:42 PM
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>> Subject: Re: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!
>> 
>>> Rebecca, what if the child does not care if his clothes are dirty? What if
>>> he is perfectly willing to go around in dirty clothes? I know it is summer
>>> time now, but my oldest son would go to school in dirty clothes. I have to
>>> have someone sighted go through his clothes occasionally and pull out
>>> things
>>> with stains because he will just wear them that way.
>>> 
>> Well, maybe he needs to miss opportunities he'd get if he dressed
>> appropriately, being passed over for a date or a volunteer thing or a job.
>> 
>> There is a difference between clothes that stink and stains. I'm not clear
>> which one you're dealing with.
>> 
>> Truthfully, I've taken to asking Stephen before we go anywhere if he has
>> clothes on that aren't torn.  The last time I didn't ask, he wore a shirt
>> that had one sleeve ripped off and jeans that looked like they'd been
>> through a crocodile attack.  An older man from my church asked me privately
>> if I needed money to get my kids decent clothes, which was totally
>> embarrassing.  Seriously, the next week, the man and his wife brought a bag
>> to me of stuff they'd bought at Target, for both Stephen and Sarah, as if I
>> couldn't provide for them.
>> 
>> Jo Elizabeth
>> 
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