[blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!

Fri Jun 8 20:56:11 UTC 2012

Glad it wasn't just me who felt that way.

Jo Elizabeth

"A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a 
song."  Maya Angelou

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From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at tasc.com>
Sent: Friday, June 08, 2012 12:07 PM
To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!

>        Gabe, why do you mention the price of your suit? What are you 
> trying to prove. You would have done better had you say "AndI was dressed 
> nicely" without mentioning the price. That was tasteless.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On 
> Behalf Of Gabe Vega
> Sent: Wednesday, June 06, 2012 7:56 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!
>
> I just went through this at my son's graduation. My 11 year old daughter 
> took some scissors and cut holes on the knees of her pants. to look like 
> the other little girls and people she sees that wear the new style of 
> pants these days. they are holes with a shredded look to them.
>
> Well anyways, I wore a suit and Tie about a $500.00 dollar get up to my 
> son's once in a life time Kindar Garden graduation and I was walking 
> around with my daughter and these holy pants. and when I found out a world 
> of embarrassment went over me and I was shocked and didn't know what to 
> do. so I know how this feels, kids some times do the weirdest things.
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> On Jun 6, 2012, at 10:35 AM, Jennifer Jackson wrote:
>
>> Jo Elizabeth,
>>
>> I think you have touched on a point here that is particular to being a 
>> blind
>> parent. When our children go out badly dressed people assume that it is
>> because those poor pitiful children have blind parents who can not 
>> provide
>> for them. Yes, we can all say that we should not care what other people
>> think, but that is nonsense. We, just like everyone else, are part of the
>> social contract and there are consequences to ignoring the standards of 
>> that
>> contract. It really is a big deal if the people in our child's school 
>> think
>> he is being neglected. Often these are consequences that a child is not
>> mature enough to understand or respond too. That being said, my pride is 
>> an
>> issue here too.
>>
>> It may comfort you to know Jo Elizabeth that that torn clothing look 
>> seems
>> to be a thing. I recently had to explain to my son that the shirt he has
>> with the arms torn out is acceptable, just barely, to meet the you must
>> where clothes at home standard, but it is not ok to wear out of our yard. 
>> Of
>> course the fact that he sees other adults at the store dressed in the 
>> same
>> kind of shirt with pajama pants on, or their underwear showing, does not
>> help support my point. The no hat or coat fashion requirement is also
>> baffling to me. It is apparently more important to look right than it is 
>> to
>> not be cold, which just supports my earlier point about logical
>> consequences. :)
>>
>>
>> Jennifer
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>> Sent: Wednesday, June 06, 2012 1:42 PM
>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!
>>
>>> Rebecca, what if the child does not care if his clothes are dirty? What 
>>> if
>>> he is perfectly willing to go around in dirty clothes? I know it is 
>>> summer
>>> time now, but my oldest son would go to school in dirty clothes. I have 
>>> to
>>> have someone sighted go through his clothes occasionally and pull out
>>> things
>>> with stains because he will just wear them that way.
>>>
>> Well, maybe he needs to miss opportunities he'd get if he dressed
>> appropriately, being passed over for a date or a volunteer thing or a 
>> job.
>>
>> There is a difference between clothes that stink and stains. I'm not 
>> clear
>> which one you're dealing with.
>>
>> Truthfully, I've taken to asking Stephen before we go anywhere if he has
>> clothes on that aren't torn.  The last time I didn't ask, he wore a shirt
>> that had one sleeve ripped off and jeans that looked like they'd been
>> through a crocodile attack.  An older man from my church asked me 
>> privately
>> if I needed money to get my kids decent clothes, which was totally
>> embarrassing.  Seriously, the next week, the man and his wife brought a 
>> bag
>> to me of stuff they'd bought at Target, for both Stephen and Sarah, as if 
>> I
>> couldn't provide for them.
>>
>> Jo Elizabeth
>>
>>
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