[blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!

[Veronica Smith]

Personally, I think this topic has gone on way too long and  you included
should just drop it.  You know, if she doesn't want to pick up after her son
or step son  or who ever, it's okay that she mentioned it.  That's what this
list is for.  It is however a blind parent issue. 
What I started doing is before I sent an email to anyone, I make sure it
doesn't sound like I am attacking them.  My husband says that of course you
can't know what someone meant or hear their voice, but you can read the
message and if there words are there accusing, that is how we take it.
Gabe, you seem to be a smart man and you are a good dad, so be a good
friend!

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Gabe Vega
Sent: Friday, June 08, 2012 3:03 PM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!

its been my experience that people who complain about stuff like that are
frankly filled with envy. also, I mentioned it to raise a point of the
contrast in how we were dressed. I'm sure anyone looking at the email
objectively would have seen that.
Gabe Vega - Sent from my Macbook Air
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On Jun 8, 2012, at 1:56 PM, Jo Elizabeth Pinto wrote:

> Glad it wasn't just me who felt that way.
> 
> Jo Elizabeth
> 
> "A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has 
> a song."  Maya Angelou
> 
> --------------------------------------------------
> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at tasc.com>
> Sent: Friday, June 08, 2012 12:07 PM
> To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!
> 
>>       Gabe, why do you mention the price of your suit? What are you
trying to prove. You would have done better had you say "AndI was dressed
nicely" without mentioning the price. That was tasteless.
>> 
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org 
>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Gabe Vega
>> Sent: Wednesday, June 06, 2012 7:56 PM
>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!
>> 
>> I just went through this at my son's graduation. My 11 year old daughter
took some scissors and cut holes on the knees of her pants. to look like the
other little girls and people she sees that wear the new style of pants
these days. they are holes with a shredded look to them.
>> 
>> Well anyways, I wore a suit and Tie about a $500.00 dollar get up to my
son's once in a life time Kindar Garden graduation and I was walking around
with my daughter and these holy pants. and when I found out a world of
embarrassment went over me and I was shocked and didn't know what to do. so
I know how this feels, kids some times do the weirdest things.
>> Gabe Vega - Sent from my Macbook Air
>> Phone Voice/Text: (623) 565-9357
>> Email: theblindtech at gmail.com
>> Twitter: http://twitter.com/blindtech
>> FaceBook: http://facebook.com/blindtech
>> Website: http://thebt.net
>> 
>> On Jun 6, 2012, at 10:35 AM, Jennifer Jackson wrote:
>> 
>>> Jo Elizabeth,
>>> 
>>> I think you have touched on a point here that is particular to being 
>>> a blind parent. When our children go out badly dressed people assume 
>>> that it is because those poor pitiful children have blind parents 
>>> who can not provide for them. Yes, we can all say that we should not 
>>> care what other people think, but that is nonsense. We, just like 
>>> everyone else, are part of the social contract and there are 
>>> consequences to ignoring the standards of that contract. It really 
>>> is a big deal if the people in our child's school think he is being 
>>> neglected. Often these are consequences that a child is not mature 
>>> enough to understand or respond too. That being said, my pride is an
issue here too.
>>> 
>>> It may comfort you to know Jo Elizabeth that that torn clothing look 
>>> seems to be a thing. I recently had to explain to my son that the 
>>> shirt he has with the arms torn out is acceptable, just barely, to 
>>> meet the you must where clothes at home standard, but it is not ok 
>>> to wear out of our yard. Of course the fact that he sees other 
>>> adults at the store dressed in the same kind of shirt with pajama 
>>> pants on, or their underwear showing, does not help support my 
>>> point. The no hat or coat fashion requirement is also baffling to 
>>> me. It is apparently more important to look right than it is to not 
>>> be cold, which just supports my earlier point about logical 
>>> consequences. :)
>>> 
>>> 
>>> Jennifer
>>> 
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org 
>>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>>> Sent: Wednesday, June 06, 2012 1:42 PM
>>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!
>>> 
>>>> Rebecca, what if the child does not care if his clothes are dirty? 
>>>> What if he is perfectly willing to go around in dirty clothes? I 
>>>> know it is summer time now, but my oldest son would go to school in 
>>>> dirty clothes. I have to have someone sighted go through his 
>>>> clothes occasionally and pull out things with stains because he 
>>>> will just wear them that way.
>>>> 
>>> Well, maybe he needs to miss opportunities he'd get if he dressed 
>>> appropriately, being passed over for a date or a volunteer thing or a
job.
>>> 
>>> There is a difference between clothes that stink and stains. I'm not 
>>> clear which one you're dealing with.
>>> 
>>> Truthfully, I've taken to asking Stephen before we go anywhere if he 
>>> has clothes on that aren't torn.  The last time I didn't ask, he 
>>> wore a shirt that had one sleeve ripped off and jeans that looked 
>>> like they'd been through a crocodile attack.  An older man from my 
>>> church asked me privately if I needed money to get my kids decent 
>>> clothes, which was totally embarrassing.  Seriously, the next week, 
>>> the man and his wife brought a bag to me of stuff they'd bought at 
>>> Target, for both Stephen and Sarah, as if I couldn't provide for them.
>>> 
>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>> 
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