[blparent] What's up with people anyway?

[Marsha Drenth]

Jo Elizabeth, 

You did the right thing, that mom is just waiting for a disaster to happen,
and it will be only her fault for whatever happens. Unfortunately in society
today, no one can tell anyone anything, it's a shame. People think they have
it under control, or that they can discipline their children in the "right"
way. But in reality, we have lots of children growing up thinking that the
world revolves around them. Oh Goodness, if we spank a child, we are going
to damage them for life. We have become entirely too sensitive. *sigh* 

And no I don't mean beating or hitting a child while your angry, which of
course we all know you should not do. Please don't think I am promoting
abuse, because I am not. 

I could go on forever about society, about children and parents, but will
spare you all the torture. LOL 

You did the right thing Jo Elizabeth, and one day your going to want another
parent to be looking out for your child, but parents will be like too scared
you will not like them anymore if they do help. Find people, parents who
think like you, who will watch out for your children as you do theirs. It
does take more than just one person to raise a child. 

Marsha 


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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
Sent: Wednesday, March 07, 2012 1:12 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: [blparent] What's up with people anyway?

Sarah and I were outside yesterday--nice day, in the seventies, today it's
thirty-five.  Anyway, we were over at the house of one of Sarah's friends,
playing out in the front yard.  The mom had gone inside for a quick shower,
which I felt good about because I was thinking it meant she trusted me
enough to leave me with her daughter for a short time.  Maybe she would have
gone anyway, even if I wasn't there.

So the deal is, her daughter wanted to climb up in a tree.  The branch was
too high for her to reach, so she dragged a toy picnic table over and stood
on it.  The branch was still too high.  The next thing she did was get a
chair and put it on top of the picnic table.  She intended to climb onto the
table, then onto the chair, and finally up to the tree branch, which hung
out over the sidewalk.  I told her that would be dangerous and she better
leave tree climbing till she was bigger or could find a tree with lower
branches, or till she had someone strong enough there who could boost her
up.

The words were barely out of my mouth when her mom yanks the front door open
and tells me, "Well, I guess you can just leave then!"

I was shocked.  Apparently she didn't like me telling her kid what to do.
But for God's sake, if I wasn't around, I would want somebody to tell Sarah
not to do something they thought would be dangerous.  I felt like saying
that next time, I'd just let this woman's daughter fall on her head on the
sidewalk, but I didn't figure that was a constructive thing to say, so I
kept my mouth shut.

When I was growing up in this same town, any neighbor could have told me not
to do something unsafe, or not to do anything at all, for that matter, and I
would have listened.  It seems that the "don't tell my kid what to do"
mentality has taken over, even where safety is concerned.  It worries me a
little because sooner or later, and not much later at that, I'll have to be
letting Sarah go out on her own a bit.  So if she decides to balance a chair
on a picnic table and then try to climb up, nobody's going to say anything
to her because it's against the social rules to caution other people's kids?
It's not like I yelled at the kid, or told her she had a stupid idea, or
anything like that.

Sorry, rant over, I just haven't been able to get the incident out of my
mind.

Jo Elizabeth

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young,
compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of
the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been all of
these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist
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