[blparent] Pregnancy and food- helpers pushing beliefs on you

Sun Mar 18 05:01:24 UTC 2012

Some people turn out to be excellent helpers, flexible and respectful of the 
person they are assisting.  Some people, for a whole assortment of reasons, 
are not well suited to be in a helping relationship.  This comes up for me 
sometimes when I go clothes shopping with a friend or relative.  I've 
learned to be pretty selective about who I ask to help me cull or expand my 
wardrobe.  I don't think anyone has ever deceived me deliberately, but when 
I invite someone's opinion on how I look in an outfit, there needs to be 
quite a high trust factor.

We as blind people are certainly not alone in having to rely on others who 
may or may not be wise, knowledgeable, and kindly disposed.  In our effort 
to stay healthy, most of us visit doctors and dentists; we go to lawyers 
when we have to draw up a contract or settle a dispute; and we generally 
count on teachers to educate our children.  Some of these folks are awesome; 
some are adequate; and some do real damage - and we all have to do our best 
to sift the good from the bad.  It can be maddening and even heartbreaking 
when we find that our trust has been misplaced, and it makes us feel very 
vulnerable.

  ----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Tay Laurie" <j.t.laurie at gmail.com>
To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Saturday, March 17, 2012 10:53 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Pregnancy and food- helpers pushing beliefs on you

>I must respectfully disagree with you. We hope that someone assisting us 
>would put aside their beliefs for a moment if we ask them for help with 
>something. It is not for someone who does not really know us well to judge 
>what we do or put into our bodies. However, we can tune out the sermons we 
>tend to get from folks around here, but downright lying is a completely 
>different story.
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Robert Shelton" <rshelton1 at gmail.com>
> To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Saturday, March 17, 2012 6:57 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Pregnancy and food- helpers pushing beliefs on you
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>
>> Interesting... When you accept help, then you accept the person who is
>> helping you.  Grow up and get over it.
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: Bridgit Pollpeter [mailto:bpollpeter at hotmail.com]
>> Sent: Friday, March 16, 2012 12:36 PM
>> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
>> Subject: [blparent] Pregnancy and food- helpers pushing beliefs on you
>>
>> Ug, I hate that! My dad and husband's driver do that whenever they assist 
>> us
>> with shopping, which is fortunately not that often. We try to buy most 
>> meat,
>> dairy and produce organic and hormone-free because it's better for you. 
>> Yes,
>> it can be pricey, but to us, it's worth the price for the health 
>> concerns.
>> My dad and driver, however, would eat crap if it were free. I understand 
>> the
>> pocket book has to come first, but we have found that by re-prioritizing
>> some things, we can pad the extra cost of organic foods such as skipping 
>> the
>> trips to McDonald's and Burger King, or I don't really need a new purse
>> every three months, grin. Yet both shake their heads, give us "that" look
>> and think we are silly for buying organic food. They always push us to 
>> get
>> the super cheap, super unhealthy, full of preservatives and additives 
>> stuff.
>> It's my money, my life. I think dumping the garbage we call fastfood into
>> your body is a frivolous option that has absolutely zero benefits, but I
>> don't judge, much, smirky grin! It's so frustrating to have to deal with 
>> a
>> middle man, grrrr. Oh, and yes, I admit I do indulge in a good fastfood
>> burger from time to time, so I'm not that granola, LOL!
>>
>> Sincerely,
>> Bridgit Kuenning-Pollpeter
>> Read my blog at:
>> http://blogs.livewellnebraska.com/author/bpollpeter/
>>
>> "History is not what happened; history is what was written down."
>> The Expected One- Kathleen McGowan
>>
>> Message: 17
>> Date: Fri, 16 Mar 2012 11:54:30 -0400
>> From: "Kate McEachern" <kflsouth at gmail.com>
>> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Pregnancy and food (deception about tea)
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>> I think if some one offers to help you they should remember they are
>> shopping for your neads not their own.  If it was me I wouldn't ask that
>>
>> person to help me shop.  I buy freerange chicken, its more money but I 
>> don't
>> mind, now if it was my job to help some one shop it wouldn't be my place 
>> to
>> place freerang chicken in their cart and not say anything.  The person
>> shopping may mind the extra cost.
>>
>> Kate
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
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