[blparent] Pregnancy and food- helpers pushing beliefs on you

Sun Mar 18 05:15:28 UTC 2012

Very well put. Thank you!
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Deborah Kent Stein" <dkent5817 at att.net>
To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Saturday, March 17, 2012 10:01 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Pregnancy and food- helpers pushing beliefs on you


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> Some people turn out to be excellent helpers, flexible and respectful of 
> the person they are assisting.  Some people, for a whole assortment of 
> reasons, are not well suited to be in a helping relationship.  This comes 
> up for me sometimes when I go clothes shopping with a friend or relative. 
> I've learned to be pretty selective about who I ask to help me cull or 
> expand my wardrobe.  I don't think anyone has ever deceived me 
> deliberately, but when I invite someone's opinion on how I look in an 
> outfit, there needs to be quite a high trust factor.
>
> We as blind people are certainly not alone in having to rely on others who 
> may or may not be wise, knowledgeable, and kindly disposed.  In our effort 
> to stay healthy, most of us visit doctors and dentists; we go to lawyers 
> when we have to draw up a contract or settle a dispute; and we generally 
> count on teachers to educate our children.  Some of these folks are 
> awesome; some are adequate; and some do real damage - and we all have to 
> do our best to sift the good from the bad.  It can be maddening and even 
> heartbreaking when we find that our trust has been misplaced, and it makes 
> us feel very vulnerable.
>
>  ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Tay Laurie" <j.t.laurie at gmail.com>
> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Saturday, March 17, 2012 10:53 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Pregnancy and food- helpers pushing beliefs on you
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>>I must respectfully disagree with you. We hope that someone assisting us 
>>would put aside their beliefs for a moment if we ask them for help with 
>>something. It is not for someone who does not really know us well to judge 
>>what we do or put into our bodies. However, we can tune out the sermons we 
>>tend to get from folks around here, but downright lying is a completely 
>>different story.
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Robert Shelton" <rshelton1 at gmail.com>
>> To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Saturday, March 17, 2012 6:57 PM
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Pregnancy and food- helpers pushing beliefs on 
>> you
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>>> Interesting... When you accept help, then you accept the person who is
>>> helping you.  Grow up and get over it.
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: Bridgit Pollpeter [mailto:bpollpeter at hotmail.com]
>>> Sent: Friday, March 16, 2012 12:36 PM
>>> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
>>> Subject: [blparent] Pregnancy and food- helpers pushing beliefs on you
>>>
>>> Ug, I hate that! My dad and husband's driver do that whenever they 
>>> assist us
>>> with shopping, which is fortunately not that often. We try to buy most 
>>> meat,
>>> dairy and produce organic and hormone-free because it's better for you. 
>>> Yes,
>>> it can be pricey, but to us, it's worth the price for the health 
>>> concerns.
>>> My dad and driver, however, would eat crap if it were free. I understand 
>>> the
>>> pocket book has to come first, but we have found that by re-prioritizing
>>> some things, we can pad the extra cost of organic foods such as skipping 
>>> the
>>> trips to McDonald's and Burger King, or I don't really need a new purse
>>> every three months, grin. Yet both shake their heads, give us "that" 
>>> look
>>> and think we are silly for buying organic food. They always push us to 
>>> get
>>> the super cheap, super unhealthy, full of preservatives and additives 
>>> stuff.
>>> It's my money, my life. I think dumping the garbage we call fastfood 
>>> into
>>> your body is a frivolous option that has absolutely zero benefits, but I
>>> don't judge, much, smirky grin! It's so frustrating to have to deal with 
>>> a
>>> middle man, grrrr. Oh, and yes, I admit I do indulge in a good fastfood
>>> burger from time to time, so I'm not that granola, LOL!
>>>
>>> Sincerely,
>>> Bridgit Kuenning-Pollpeter
>>> Read my blog at:
>>> http://blogs.livewellnebraska.com/author/bpollpeter/
>>>
>>> "History is not what happened; history is what was written down."
>>> The Expected One- Kathleen McGowan
>>>
>>> Message: 17
>>> Date: Fri, 16 Mar 2012 11:54:30 -0400
>>> From: "Kate McEachern" <kflsouth at gmail.com>
>>> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Pregnancy and food (deception about tea)
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>>> I think if some one offers to help you they should remember they are
>>> shopping for your neads not their own.  If it was me I wouldn't ask that
>>>
>>> person to help me shop.  I buy freerange chicken, its more money but I 
>>> don't
>>> mind, now if it was my job to help some one shop it wouldn't be my place 
>>> to
>>> place freerang chicken in their cart and not say anything.  The person
>>> shopping may mind the extra cost.
>>>
>>> Kate
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
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