[blparent] ACCEPTING HELP

[Jan Wright]

this is an interesting subject.
whenever someone offers to "help" I ask them to be specific about "how" they are offering to help.
1. sometimes the "help" they want to give  is not needed .... ... or needed by them. 
2. sometimes their "help" is ineffective.
3. sometimes they may not realize the  amount of time and/or energy that goes into that help.
 
I have higher expectations of People who "help" or "assist" as their job. There are lots of control issues (unfortunately) around giving and accepting help. help does not mean that we relinquish control of the situation. I have had too many people that have tried to "take over," when I have accepted their offer for help.  I have learned to be very specific on "how" I need help. If people are helping with a pure heart, then they will listen to what you really need and not do what they think you need. If they don't, then I don't ask them again. This does not mean that I feel entitled to their help. This also does not mean that I selfishly take their help without caring about their feelings, etc. In addition, I always offer help in return. I believe that a true helping relationship should be reciprocal and I tend to ask those people who understand this concept. They are much more respectful of my choices. 
BTW., Peapod
www.peapod.com
also delivers food and probably has the tea your looking for. I know that they have greek yogurt... they had it on sale a couple of weeks.
But, they might not deliver in your area yet. It is worth a look.