[blparent] Pregnancy and food- Helpers pushing beliefs on you

[Kate McEachern]

Well, as far as for me, "help" is compensated they work at stores and shops 
where I the custamer go to shop.  So yes it is their job.  I don't just take 
randem help it causes headaches.  And there are things in my life I don't 
want my Mom or some people a part of.  Ananimmety is a good thing at times. 
But,  I don't like being lied to either,  and yes the person may be telling 
me their truth but it is my "job" to see if what I am told is my truth. 
Because in the end the only "truth" I care about is my own.
Kate
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Robert Shelton" <rshelton1 at gmail.com>
To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, March 19, 2012 10:47 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Pregnancy and food- Helpers pushing beliefs on you


> >PMS-ing are we? There's nothing immature about this.
> Oh yes there is.  I beg to differ.  Do you really think that people always
> tell you "the truth?"  Under the best of circumstances, they tell you 
> their
> truth.  Maybe it works, maybe it doesn't.  You evaluate and use the
> information as you will.
>
> I think we're all making a lot of assumptions here.  None of us know, and,
> it's actually none of our business, what was Tay's arrangement with those
> who were helping her.  I keep seeing the word "job" coming up in this
> discussion.  It's no one's "job" to help me or anyone else unless they get
> compensated for it.
>
>>I mean, if we take the attitude you suggest, we should "grow up" when
> people say we can't raise children simply because we are blind, or we >are
> not qualified for employment, or that we can not care for ourselves.
> Where did I say that?  I was suggesting taking a mature, reasoned, and 
> yes,
> perhaps a bit jaded view of "help" which we receive.  Accounting for
> predictable inaccuracies in what we are told is part of being an adult 
> human
> being.  Do you believe everything you read online.  It's more or less the
> same idea -- I believe it's called critical thinking.
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Bridgit Pollpeter [mailto:bpollpeter at hotmail.com]
> Sent: Sunday, March 18, 2012 4:57 PM
> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Subject: [blparent] Pregnancy and food- Helpers pushing beliefs on you
>
> PMS-ing are we? There's nothing immature about this. Just because a person
> is assisting in some capacity does not mean my wants and needs are subject
> to their approval. If I want a specific product when shopping, it's the
> assistants "job" to find that product. I mean, if we take the attitude you
> suggest, we should "grow up" when people say we can't raise children 
> simply
> because we are blind, or we are not qualified for employment, or that we 
> can
> not care for ourselves. When you get down to it, how is this any 
> different?
> These people are  just helping us, and according to you, we should, accept
> them" just because they are helping us. This, by your definition, means we
> do not make our rights, wants, needs vocal; we are just accepting said
> person's beliefs and ideas. Assist means to serve, to help; if we adopt 
> the
> mindset that we should just do what others suggest, we say it's okay to 
> not
> treat our needs and wants in an equal manner. If I state what I want to 
> buy,
> an assistant "helps" me to find that item, not lie about it, not judge, 
> not
> refuse to find it. Where's the immaturity in this?
>
> Sincerely,
> Bridgit Kuenning-Pollpeter
> Read my blog at:
> http://blogs.livewellnebraska.com/author/bpollpeter/
>
> "History is not what happened; history is what was written down."
> The Expected One- Kathleen McGowan
>
> Message: 4
> Date: Sat, 17 Mar 2012 20:57:00 -0500
> From: "Robert Shelton" <rshelton1 at gmail.com>
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> you
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> Interesting... When you accept help, then you accept the person who is
> helping you.  Grow up and get over it.
>
>
>
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