[blparent] Pregnancy and food- Helpers pushing beliefs on you

[Robert Shelton]

>PMS-ing are we? There's nothing immature about this.
Oh yes there is.  I beg to differ.  Do you really think that people always
tell you "the truth?"  Under the best of circumstances, they tell you their
truth.  Maybe it works, maybe it doesn't.  You evaluate and use the
information as you will.

I think we're all making a lot of assumptions here.  None of us know, and,
it's actually none of our business, what was Tay's arrangement with those
who were helping her.  I keep seeing the word "job" coming up in this
discussion.  It's no one's "job" to help me or anyone else unless they get
compensated for it.  

>I mean, if we take the attitude you suggest, we should "grow up" when
people say we can't raise children simply because we are blind, or we >are
not qualified for employment, or that we can not care for ourselves.
Where did I say that?  I was suggesting taking a mature, reasoned, and yes,
perhaps a bit jaded view of "help" which we receive.  Accounting for
predictable inaccuracies in what we are told is part of being an adult human
being.  Do you believe everything you read online.  It's more or less the
same idea -- I believe it's called critical thinking.


-----Original Message-----
From: Bridgit Pollpeter [mailto:bpollpeter at hotmail.com] 
Sent: Sunday, March 18, 2012 4:57 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: [blparent] Pregnancy and food- Helpers pushing beliefs on you

PMS-ing are we? There's nothing immature about this. Just because a person
is assisting in some capacity does not mean my wants and needs are subject
to their approval. If I want a specific product when shopping, it's the
assistants "job" to find that product. I mean, if we take the attitude you
suggest, we should "grow up" when people say we can't raise children simply
because we are blind, or we are not qualified for employment, or that we can
not care for ourselves. When you get down to it, how is this any different?
These people are  just helping us, and according to you, we should, accept
them" just because they are helping us. This, by your definition, means we
do not make our rights, wants, needs vocal; we are just accepting said
person's beliefs and ideas. Assist means to serve, to help; if we adopt the
mindset that we should just do what others suggest, we say it's okay to not
treat our needs and wants in an equal manner. If I state what I want to buy,
an assistant "helps" me to find that item, not lie about it, not judge, not
refuse to find it. Where's the immaturity in this?

Sincerely,
Bridgit Kuenning-Pollpeter
Read my blog at:
http://blogs.livewellnebraska.com/author/bpollpeter/
 
"History is not what happened; history is what was written down."
The Expected One- Kathleen McGowan

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Date: Sat, 17 Mar 2012 20:57:00 -0500
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Interesting... When you accept help, then you accept the person who is
helping you.  Grow up and get over it.