[blparent] Parent report cards?
Jo Elizabeth Pinto
jopinto at msn.com
Fri May 4 15:42:47 UTC 2012
Exactly. I think the disabled might drop down a grade or two by default.
Not because they aren't doing a good job, in general, but because of the
perceptions of the teacher that they might not be able to do a good job.
Jo Elizabeth
"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young,
compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of
the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of
these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist
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From: "Tay Laurie" <j.t.laurie at gmail.com>
Sent: Friday, May 04, 2012 4:39 AM
To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] Parent report cards?
> Being graded on your parenting is one more step towards, as hypothesised,
> the government stepping in. Remember the child who was taken away because
> he was severely overweight? There are two sides to every story. What if
> he'd had a medical condition, and diet and exercise weren't enough? Just
> because he wasn't dropping weight fast enough shouldn't have been enough
> to take him from his parents. And if they give the sighted parents all
> manner of heck, what kind of grading curve would they use for the blind or
> partly sighted?
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Kate McEachern" <kflsouth at gmail.com>
> To: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com>; "Blind Parents Mailing List"
> <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Thursday, May 03, 2012 4:53 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Parent report cards?
>
>
>>I can understand that they want parent invalvment but to be fair we don't
>>all have extra time working from home or out. I make use of the time we
>>have and plan meanningful weekend day trips or do something speashel when
>>I have a few days off. One modle doesn't work for all but it seams as my
>>kids get older there is moreunaform ways of doing things. I don't
>>remember parents in the 80s being as strung out as we are but I was like 8
>>so maybe I didn't see it.
>>
>> Kate
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com>
>> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Thursday, May 03, 2012 5:45 PM
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Parent report cards?
>>
>>
>>>I agree. There are two parents in the house for Sarah, but I'm in kind
>>>of a unique and often difficult situation because I'm trying to work from
>>>home out of necessity and give Sarah the attention she needs at the same
>>>time. It went fairly well when she was younger, but it's getting to be a
>>>struggle as she wants, and deserves, more and more of my focus. Plus
>>>then there's cooking and laundry, and I seem to be the only one who knows
>>>how to put stuff in the dishwasher, turn it on, and take the clean dishes
>>>out again. So I understand, I would probably toss the report card, good
>>>or bad, on a pile of "I'll get to it someday" paperwork, and think where
>>>I'd like to tell the school to put it if I could.
>>>
>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>
>>> "How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young,
>>> compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant
>>> of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been
>>> all of these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist
>>>
>>> --------------------------------------------------
>>> From: "Kate McEachern" <kflsouth at gmail.com>
>>> Sent: Thursday, May 03, 2012 3:32 PM
>>> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Parent report cards?
>>>
>>>> I don't like this either, what about single parents who don't have the
>>>> time for activities every night and don't always have the lluchery of
>>>> time to birn? I think people should parent how they can make it work.
>>>> For me, I have had to let my kids play video games rather then have me
>>>> sit with them because I have no one else to do the laundry, or cook, or
>>>> the other things that to most require two parents. I won't be
>>>> responding to any parent report cards if my kid sends it my way there
>>>> is just too much to do.
>>>> Kate
>>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>>> From: "Erin Rumer" <erinrumer at gmail.com>
>>>> To: "'Jo Elizabeth Pinto'" <jopinto at msn.com>; "'Blind Parents Mailing
>>>> List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>> Sent: Thursday, May 03, 2012 1:53 PM
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Parent report cards?
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>>I don't agree with the parent report card either, but it's a sad time
>>>>>when
>>>>> parents are so uninvolved as a whole that this is even being
>>>>> considered. I
>>>>> know of lots of parents like myself who are involved a ton with their
>>>>> children, providing them both quality and quantity time, but so many
>>>>> folks
>>>>> load themselves with more to do in a day than there are hours that the
>>>>> kids
>>>>> get the shaft. I think that community involvement is fabulous and key
>>>>> in a
>>>>> child's development, but family time needs to come first before soccer
>>>>> practice, dance class, piano lessons and so much more that parents are
>>>>> running their kids to something nearly on a nightly basis. I say
>>>>> depending
>>>>> on the age of the child they should have no more than 2
>>>>> extracurricular
>>>>> activities at one time on average in order to fit in that quality
>>>>> family
>>>>> time. There are so many of us busting our humps to do all we can for
>>>>> our
>>>>> kids but there are also lots of parents who are on survival mode
>>>>> continuously and allowing their kids to eat in front of the television
>>>>> instead of talking as a family and playing video games all the time to
>>>>> keep
>>>>> them occupied. This is why such ridiculous ideas like the parent
>>>>> report
>>>>> card even come up. Lots of parents are acting like kids, so the
>>>>> government
>>>>> is wanting to treat them as such. Behavior aside though, who are they
>>>>> to
>>>>> say what's good enough. I'll turn to much better resources and
>>>>> mentoring
>>>>> than the government for parenting advice, thank you very much!
>>>>>
>>>>> Erin
>>>>>
>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>>> On
>>>>> Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>>>>> Sent: Thursday, May 03, 2012 10:33 AM
>>>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>>> Subject: [blparent] Parent report cards?
>>>>>
>>>>> Who's judging whom? Parent report card proposal stirs debate
>>>>>
>>>>> There's a movement afoot for teachers to start issuing report cards...
>>>>> on
>>>>> parents! How would you feel about being graded by your child's
>>>>> teacher? One
>>>>> Florida state lawmaker is proposing just that. NBC Education
>>>>> Correspondent
>>>>> Rehema Ellis reported the story for TODAY, and it got her thinking
>>>>> about her
>>>>> own parental participation.
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> NBC News Correspondent Rehema Ellis
>>>>>
>>>>> By Rehema Ellis, NBC correspondent
>>>>>
>>>>> As I researched this story, it made me think about my own family. I
>>>>> asked
>>>>> myself, would I mind being graded as a parent?
>>>>>
>>>>> All my son's life -- he's 8 years old now and in the second grade --
>>>>> I've
>>>>> embraced the notion that my school days are starting anew. Of course,
>>>>> the
>>>>> big difference now is that I'm in the teacher/tutor role. I make him
>>>>> breakfast every morning and sit down with him. I read all the school
>>>>> notices
>>>>> and frequently communicate with his teachers and the school. There's a
>>>>> big
>>>>> payoff: I know how he's doing in school and his report card has never
>>>>> been a
>>>>> surprise. (And I should add, he's doing really well in school.)
>>>>>
>>>>> So, based on my involvement in my son's school life, I think I'd get a
>>>>> pretty good parent report card. Still, I got to thinking: What kind of
>>>>> grade
>>>>> would I get if I missed a few school notices or didn't check all of
>>>>> his
>>>>> homework? It could happen, because as we all know parenting isn't
>>>>> easy.
>>>>> Parents, especially those who work outside of the home, have long days
>>>>> on
>>>>> the job, often exhausting commutes, and frequent challenges to keep
>>>>> the
>>>>> house in order AND keep an eye on what's happening in their child's
>>>>> school.
>>>>>
>>>>> Susan Rayburn, the principal at Lincoln Elementary School in Plant
>>>>> City,
>>>>> Fla., told me that grading could jump-start involvement from parents
>>>>> who are
>>>>> not actively engaged in their child's education. But she also
>>>>> cautioned that
>>>>> if not handled properly, the parent report card could be a turnoff.
>>>>> Some
>>>>> parents could feel intimidated, she said. If the bill passes in the
>>>>> Florida
>>>>> legislature, Rayburn said she hopes teachers use the parent report
>>>>> card "as
>>>>> a tool for partnership versus a 'gotcha.' "
>>>>>
>>>>> She makes a great point. After all, the ultimate goal is to help
>>>>> children do
>>>>> better in school. If the parent report card is used, as she says, to
>>>>> "showcase what parents are doing and then help bridge that gap for
>>>>> what they
>>>>> are not doing," everyone's grades would improve ... kids AND parents.
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> I read the article online and decided to post it for an idea to chew
>>>>> on.
>>>>>
>>>>> Personally, I think the idea sucks rocks. Most parents, including me,
>>>>> are
>>>>> hard enough on themselves, and now to be judged by teachers as well?
>>>>> No
>>>>> thanks!
>>>>>
>>>>> The idea is also dangerous, in my opinion. If teachers start issuing
>>>>> report
>>>>> cards based on parental involvement and student progress, the next
>>>>> step is
>>>>> for the government to take action against the parents that don't, in
>>>>> the
>>>>> opinion of teachers, measure up. What happens to the parents who
>>>>> don't
>>>>> pass? Or the average ones who get C's? Will the government have the
>>>>> right
>>>>> to step in and force them to improve their "grades"? Bad idea.
>>>>>
>>>>> I do believe parents should be involved with the education of their
>>>>> children, and I don't believe it's all up to the teachers. My sister
>>>>> teaches in public school, and I've heard the stories about hard times
>>>>> in the
>>>>> classroom with no parental backup, and adversarial relationships
>>>>> between
>>>>> parents and teachers over who is at fault when kids don't thrive, or
>>>>> when
>>>>> they get in trouble. So I support teachers wholeheartedly, but I
>>>>> wouldn't
>>>>> want to be graded by them on my parenting skills and philosophies, any
>>>>> more
>>>>> than they would probably not like me to send them a report card on
>>>>> their
>>>>> teaching habits and expertise.
>>>>>
>>>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>>>
>>>>> "How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young,
>>>>> compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and
>>>>> tolerant of
>>>>> the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been
>>>>> all of
>>>>> these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist
>>>>>
>>>>>
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